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BESTTT friend to bitch.
okay, so ive known this girl for since 6th grade. were now both in 10th grade and we have been on and off. the reason why, is guys.
okay. so now THIS time a guy that she likes [she never told me that she liked him] likes me, and he told me and i told her. and honestly, shes being a huge bitch[sorry about the language] about this whole situation. shes getting so many people involved and getting all these people to hate me. the guy likes me because im laied back and im chill, and shes just always buggin' and shit.
shes in this situation where she likes about 3 or 4 guys. justin[the one that likes me], noah, grant and her BOYFRIEND! jake. their currently on a break, and their not going to get back together.
heres a texting convorsation we had today:
me: we need to talk.. badly. give me a call.
her: what is there to talk about? Honestly... and btw i heard from ppl that you and justin were just messing aroudn with me. if thats true then you just fucked up big time.
me: we wed me. what crime did i do? nothing
me: wow that text got messed up. he told me that he likes me, thats nothing bad on my part.
her: Laura im done with this shit, if you guys were honestly just trying to piss me off you should of known what was gunna happen. he doesnt like YOU your just easy so thats why hes going for you, and you knew i liked him and yet you do this.
me: oh my god christie, i didnt do anything. im not easyyy... can you just call me or IM me later and be mature about this?
her: ill call you but im done ! realize that now.. you fucking backstab me with almost every guy and im done.. and you werent so mature yourselfeither talkin shit about me to becca and bekki!
me: i wasnt saying shit... lmao
your the one who is calling me a bitch and a slut whe nyou know im not a slut.
her: you so were and yeah.. i was calling you that dont fucking deny anything.
me: hahaha are you kidding? i said your a bitch for taking this so outta hand.
this is just going to continue for hours.
so when she calls me, what should i say to her? shes such a bitch and we seriously had to many plans together for our sweet 16. and now their just ruined and shes one of my best friends and she knows everything about me and i know everything about her...... it was just so awkward today with her coming to my lunch period pulling everyone aside and telling them whats going on and they dont even get MY side of the story.
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hmmm... she really is a bitch with a capital B.
i have a friend exactly like this(well, she was) i mean exactly. what i did and i think you shoulddo to is get her by herself and tell her that she needs to get over herself and stop being such a back stabbing, self centered, drama queen. sometimes being harsh is the only thing that gets through. you also need to tell her that you are happy with your boyfriend and not intrested in justin. and that she can't have everone. now, when i confronted my friend, it turned into a shouting match so be prepared for that but on the upside... we're closer than ever and she's changed. so there is hope. and don't under any circumstances let her walk away from you, because then nothing will be resolved.
good luck, i just hope she listens...
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Heh, you're nursing a bit of a justified superiority complex. Its good to see someone your age strong enough in their convictions to genuinely condemn behavior like your "friend" is exhibiting as opposed to just shrugging it off. People like her should not be encouraged.
Anyway, a few extra words of advice, from someone who is not at all unlike you.
You have a strong sense of judgement and confidence in your own sense of right and wrong. People can't blow smoke up your ass and expect you to be happy about it.
Thats going to cause you problems in life. Especially when you run into those truly worthless individuals who thrive on drama and bullshit. Seeing through other people's insecurities and lies, and not being the type of person to be shouted down when you're right, drama mongers will not like you because you are like this.
Don't ever let someone know what you think of them. Anyone who is not worthy of your respect is not worthy of knowing you feel this way so that they can dislike you in return and make your life harder. They will, given the opportunity.
Be honest with your friends and polite to everyone else, and always keep the assholes and drama mongers in their place. The best victory over these kind of people is being completely invunerable to their BS. People who like drama don't know what to do with someone who's buttons they can't press.
Ive got a guy like this at work. He's a severe drama monger, and he ALWAYS finds something to bitch at me about. 5-6 times a shift, minimum.
Its always something else, and he's always pissed off because I completely ignore him, don't even twitch when he's sarcastic, and then smile at him and say "please" and "thank you"
And every time I smile at him, he knows I think he's trash, and that I'm a better person than he is, and that there is nothing he can do to change that, or affect me.
Wow, that came out alot more arrogant than I intended it to, but you see my point.
Think about what I just wrote. These are lessons I had to learn, being as confident in myself as you seem to be. You can see from this "friend" you're already starting to get this reaction. If you learn to manage it, you will at the least never worry about compromising yourself because of people like her ever in your lifetime.
The other part, is confidence in yourself inevitably leads to arrogance. You can see that I still have a good bit of that brewing myself. You might not be nearly as bad, but it will probably be something you encounter yourself sometimes.
Find some good friends. Two or three will do. People who's opinions you respect, and who you trust enough that you can use them kind of as a compass. Family can work well too, if you have a good relationship with them. Anyone you respect enough to point you in the right direction at those times when you aren't sure yourself.
You need someone to keep you honest. Someone who can give you a respectable opinion of when your head is the size of a hot air balloon. You always want to have a few people you can trust who can give you a clear view of yourself from the outside. People like this let you make sure that strong moral compass you have stays pointed north.
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Lordy Lordy.
Ok.
You, are a gem. You are one of the few. Based on what you've expressed here and how you expressed it, you are a girl who is not self centered to the point of irrationality. Thats relatively rare in this day and age.
Your "friend" by comparison, is exactly what you have labeled her as.
A bitch. A self centered irrational immature girl who goes absolutely insane when the world shows her that she isnt the center of the universe.
Ignore her. The next time you interact, explain to her very calmly that the universe doesnt revolve around her and whom she likes, and that if she can't figure that out she isnt going to be worth much to anyone. Tell her that she's already ruined your friendship by being immature because she cannot handle the idea that someone she finds attractive finds you more attractive than her. Explain that throughout her life she will always have to watch guys go for someone better than her, because "better than her" is such a broad category at this point, and if she wants to change that she needs to be less of a bitch, not more.
Your perspective in this is understandable. Its flattering to be liked, even if you don't plan on acting on it. But her reaction is completely off the charts of acceptable, and you should not continue being her friend. If anyone asks you about anything, tell them the truth. Other than that, tell her to shut her damn mouth, because it only makes her look bad to be spreading shit about someone she called a friend a few weeks ago.
Makes HER look like the back-blading asshole.
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