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ok, this guy and i have known each other for about 3 years. we met on myspace through a third party but only officially met this weekend. over the years we've been friends but only started gettin pretty close a couple months ago. he lives about an hour and a half or a little less away from me, and came down to see me friday night and i went to see him yesterday and hung out with his friends and family. im 17, and he's 19. saturday is my birthday. and im not doing a damn thing, which is pretty pitiful for an 18th birthday. friday night his family/neighbors are having a party/get together and he asked me to come and celebrate my birthday with them. the problem is he wants me to stay the night [not just me, most of the people that will be there are]. now running this by my mom is gonna be WAY difficult. he and i do like each other, but in keep in mind that we're not going to be do ANYTHING sexual, other than like kiss. im a pretty modest person and i do have standards for myself, im not some sleeze and he's not all after that. im still a virgin.. i was raised to not be a hoe and my mom knows this. im not one who says that and then gets caught up in the moment & it happens anyway. no, i know where the stopping point is. ive been in the situation before and nothings ever happened. my mom trusts me and lets me do just about anything i want to. but shes very uptight about me stayin over at a guys house, even if its just a friend or for a party or whatever. i'd have to get up at like 8 am the next morning and leave for work anyway, so yeah. his family drinks, their like the social drinkers. im not a big drinker, but you know. i hate the taste of alcohol honestly. so the point is nothing bad would happen. but i still think my mom wont go for it even though im turning 18. i really want to see him bc like i said i do like him and hes in the army so hes not home much. i have two options here.. either tell my mom the whole honest truth and hope she says yes which is doubtful, and miss my chance to hangout with him and be bored on my birthday, or say im staying the night at a friends and then go down to where he lives, but i'd feel really bad about lying about something like that. i dont know, any advice?
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well, your turning 18, and honestly your moms opinion doesnt matter anymore once your 18 ha you can consider it but your legally an adult now so you can make your on decisions. If your really into like listening to everything your mom tells you well if she trusts you now still then i bet she will trust you to not be a "hoe" as you put it.. (by the way look up the definition of hoe) not everyone who has lost there virginity before 17 is a hoe. =]
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If your mum has trusted you this far, I see no reason as to why she shouldn't trust you when you go over for a sleepover. You're a big girl now and can take care of yourself. You know were to stop and you've done it on a separate occasion so that should be enough for your mum to trust you.
And besides, you're going to be spending the night with other people around and not with just him. And since you're not a big drinker, I don't think that there will be much of you getting drunk and things getting out of control. And since it's with the family, I don't think that much will happen.
Speaking of which, it's a family get-together, so there is definitely not going to be anything going on and you both know what to do or not what to do.
I see no point in lying, because either way, your mum will find out and will probably give you a hard time. Tell her that you'd just like to hang out with him and just meet his family for your birthday and just have some fun. Say all which I've written above to her if she says no and try and persuade her gently.
I hope this helped,
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