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What is an appropriate wedding gift to give my former best friend?
My ex-best friend is getting married and I have been invited to the wedding through a series of undesirable events.
I have decided to attend the wedding; although, I do not believe my ex-best friend wanted me to at first (until I confronted her about it). She did eventually invite me herself so I feel it is a nice gesture to attend the wedding. I do want to show her that I was a good friend and go to her wedding appropriately.
I am wondering what would be appropriate to purchase as a wedding gift for her and her husband. I really need advice on this as I've never attended a wedding in my entire life.
She is almost 22 and will be marrying a guy that is 25. They have been seeing each other for a year and he actually proposed two months ago. The wedding is in late October 2008 and is autumn themed (even the wedding flowers will be in autumn colors). They have been living together in her house for about 9 months now with their two small dogs.
They both like to gun and bow hunt (deer and turkey) so he will be wearing a camouflaged tux (tacky, I know). They both drink heavily; however, I will not be purchasing them alcohol or alcohol related things. He works as a coal miner. She works at Lowe's. They are not virgins, sadly, but neither have children. I am uncertain if they will be honeymooning, but there will definately be wedding reception. Their house is paid for, and has been for years, so they really aren't lacking appliances or anything of that sort.
I am simply looking for nice wedding gifts. I really have no idea what is an appropriate wedding gift to give her and her new husband, but I am certain that I want to purchase a wedding gift for them even though we are no longer friends. I don't even know how much to spend on a wedding gift for my former best friend!
I am up for any and all ideas!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Gift Giving?
The first question you should ALWAYS ask yourself about a wedding gift is: Where are they registered?
If it didn't come with your invitations, call the mother of the bride and ask.
Sure, not every couple has a gift registry, but most do and the easiest thing to do is simply to buy them what is on the list of things they have already said they want.
The rule of thumb, when attending a wedding, is to buy a gift that roughly covers your being there. For most weddings that is about $100. Of course, a more important rule is to spend what you can afford.
I have to add however, that you really need to change your perspective here. Whatever your history with this woman, a wedding is a happy occasion that every person deserves, not matter how much you dislike them. If you are really so unhappy with her then just send a polite card of congratulations and thank her for the invitation. You shouldn’t go to a wedding, or buy a gift, out of obligation or resentment. You shouldn’t go to someone’s wedding just to prove you are mature or a good friend. Thier wedding has nothing at all to do with you and you shouldn't attend for any other reason then to congratulate and share this moment with them.
I would strongly encourage you to either attend in a spirit of affection and celebration or don’t attend at all.
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Considering this description, it was hard for me to think of something, but here are the results of a Google search and they should be able to help you out:
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I hope this wedding goes well,
triquetra
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