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sex for the first time..
hey
im a college sophomore.. ive never had sex before..hard to beleive i know.. but i want to. i feel like i need to get it over with. i know its supposed to be special but im kinda over that. i wont regret doing it now. im dating someone ive been with for about a month and i want to have sex with him because everytime we're together it sort of is about to happen but im scared. he doesnt know ive a virgin. ive been fingered numerous times..some of which has hurt a little bit after so im wondering if this is how sex will hurt for the first time? or is it going to be worse? and will he be able to know that im a virgin? any tips will really be appreciated. i know its stupid but i feel like he should be a little drunk so that if i do anything dumb/wrong, im not embarassed. thanks!!
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Alcohol and sex do not mix. This is how bad things tend to occur. You may think you are physically and mentally ready for sex. Unfortunately, you aren't. If you have doubts, lingering questions or fears it means it's not the time yet.
It's also not a competition either as people have sex for the first time at any age and only when ready. You have only been together for one month. You need to slow things down here and really ask yourself if he's the right person. Better yet ask yourself if he's likely to dump you after he has sex with you.
Does sex hurt? It depends. Some people describe discomfort differently. Most find friction from thrusting and penetration to hurt a bit. However, if you use lubricants it will feel much better for you.
I doubt you being a virgin will matter to him. In fact he might enjoy that fact and teaching you how to do things. Definitely think this through and don't let it just happen. Be sure it's what you want. You may not regret the act of sex but you might regret who it was with later.
You have all the time in the world to experience sex. It's not about your age it's about your maturity and your partner's, having birth control and finances should a pregnancy occur.
There's also no right or wrong way of having sex either. He's not expecting you to know everything. If you decide to do this just relax and go with the flow. Some things will come naturally and based on instinct.
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Losing your virginity should be something that you put thought into whether you are in college or a teen. I don't think that you should just give it up to get it over with. You should let your first time be with someone that you want to be with. I can tell by the fact that you don't want him to know that you are a virgin, the comfort level hasn't gotten there yet. It isn't something that you should be ashamed of. It will hurt more than the fingering has and you may be sore for a day or two depending on his size. It will get better for you though with each try. Also, you don't need to worry about " doing it wrong" since most guys are just so excited to get it he will probably take charge and enjoy it no matter how you fumble. Your lack of experience will also heighten his sensation because your body will fit his manhood in a more snug way ; )
Have fun and protect yourself!
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haha well, i don't think he will no your a virgin unless your cherry popped or something by chances are its already been popped from other things.
a lot of girls are worried they will do something stupid or dumb during sex or do it "wrong" but really there isnt any way to do it wrong once your doing it, it comes naturally and chances are the guy would be to into it to notice anything you may do that is in your eyes "wrong" sex for me hurt at first but after a few minutes it got good and then the next couple times you do it , it will be really goooood.
goodluck hah
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