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I think I still love my ex should I tell him??
I am a 26 yr old female and I am married and have been for 5 years. Its been 9 years since i broke it off with my ex! I see him often and it hurts cause he is with someone new!!!! I love my husband, but I think i love my ex too, should I talk to my ex or leave it alone? I have caught him staring at me at times, could this be a sign of things still on fire?
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Leave it alone.
You are old enough to realize that emotional and physical attraction isnt something to explore when you're married.
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Okay... I know that what I am about to say is probably going to sound very, very harsh. I apologize in advance. But... If you want my honest opinion... Keep reading.
I don't know anything... But I'm guessing that: you and your husband are either experiencing problems with your relationship or the 'thrill is gone.' Either the stress or the lack of excitement is causing you to look for fulfillment outside of your relationship. And what better place to look for that fulfillment? Your ex... That you conviently see on a regular basis.
Understand that I'm not accusing you of infidelity. What I am going to say is: whether or not the feeling is mutual... I think that if you try to discuss your feelings with him, this is bound to blow up in your face sooner or later.
How would your husband react if he found out? How would your ex's girlfriend react if she found out? Do you really need to discuss your feelings when the fact of the matter is that the two of you ended your relationship instead of trying to work out your problems? Do you really need to discuss your feelings when not only did you break up with each other... But instead of fighting for one another you both moved on and became involved with other people? Even if the two of you shared a mutual feeling... Is that feeling actually love?
I don't know. You'll have to ask yourself those questions and find your own answer. But... Again... My honest opinion: if you're experiencing problems in your relationship, if the 'thrill is gone'... The best course of action would be to communicate with your husband, not your ex.
Ps. I don't know why you see your ex so often... But if you could avoid doing so in the future that would _probably_ be best.
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