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pregnancy
Iam 19 years old and i had sex about 3 weeks ago and i think i may be pregnant and i know i won't be able to take care of a baby by myself even though iam 19 years old my mind delveloped mentally is not 19 it is more like 12 so basically iam a 12 year old in a 19 year old body and i moved out of my mom's house after i graduated with a special education deploma and i moved in with my cousin but iam afraid if i tell my cousin that i had unprotected sex and i think i may be pregnant she'll kick me out even though we are really close and everything and i don't think she'd do that but i've don't so many things in the past that have hurt her like i use to steal ciggerates from her but i quit stealing them from her and i quit smoking all together and she said if i did one more thing that hurt her that she would be threw with me and i don't know if this would be considering hurting her to and iam really scared we won't have the same relationship as we do now if i tell her that i migt be pregnant becouse we are like sisters.
please help me.
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Your cousin is going to be hurt because you did not make responsible decisions. Smoking and stealing are both very bad and she knows that so when you stole the cigarettes she was very disappointed in you. When she finds out that you had sex, she will be upset, but it will pass in time.
This time you made a really, really big mistake. You may have created another life by making this mistake. Having sex and getting pregnant is a much bigger deal than stealing a pack of cigarettes, in my opinion.
First you need to sit down with your cousin and tell her about what happened. Tell her exactly what happened. Let her know that you had sex and are afraid you may be pregnant. She will help you find the right kind of pregnancy test or take you to the appropriate doctor to have a pregnancy test done for you. The sooner you find out if you ARE pregnant, the sooner you can start taking special vitamins for the baby so it will be healthy.
You NEED to tell your cousin now so she can help you right away.
I'm sure your cousin isn't going to kick you out, but I know she's going to be hurt that you make an irresponsible decision. When you tell her that you had sex and feel that you may be pregnant let her know that you KNOW you cannot raise the baby and have decided that adoption is best (because it is in this situation). You can even ask her if she will help you find good parents to adopt your baby so the baby will have the best life possible.
It's okay if she gets mad as long as you have learned your lesson. Your cousin SHOULD be upset because she trusted you to make good choices and you didn't. She'll obviously be upset but that doesn't mean she doesn't love you as a sister. I'm sure she'll calm down after she realizes that things are already being settled and that you're going to go to the doctor, be healthy, and give the baby up for adoption.
Be prepared for your cousin to be really stressed at first. She'll probably think she has to raise your baby too and I'm sure she doesn't have a easy life (most people don't have easy lives), whether you realize that or not. Apologize to her for what you've done and, like I said, learn your lesson! Do not do this again. Do not put yourself in a situation where you could get pregnant again.
Even if you use a condom, you can get pregnant.
Even if you use birth control pills, you can get pregnant.
Even if the penis only went inside of you for 2 seconds, you can get pregnant.
Please stop having sex and do the responsible thing now with your pregnancy. Have your cousin help you find a good adoption agency for your baby and go from there. In time your cousin will forgive you. In time your cousin might trust you again.
1. Tell your cousin right away.
2. Let her help you take the appropriate pregnancy test.
3. Tell her you've already planned to give the baby up for adoption and that you know you made a big mistake.
4. Let her help you find good parents to adopt your baby.
5. Learn this lesson now so you don't end up in the same situation later. Your cousin isn't going to easily forgive you twice for this. You only get one shot at learning this lesson.
I hope your discussion with your cousin goes well. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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Getting pregnant doesn't/wouldn't/shouldn't hurt her. Wait however long you want to, and take a pregnancy test to make sure it isn't just a scare. Ready or not, if you're pregnant, you're pregnant. You have to take some kind of action, after that. Whether it's aborting or considering adoption or keeping it, you have to do something.
Tell your cousin. If she's as close as you think she isn't, she won't be hurt, she'll just be nervous/excited with you. Stealing cigarettes, although wrong and unhealthy, isn't really that big of a deal. Chances are she won't throw you out because you made a mistake. If she does, well, maybe you should reevaluate your relationship with her.
Then go to your parent(s), siblings, or whoever else you feel needs to know. Don't suffer alone, there are plenty of people that care about you that will do whatever they can to help.
I'm not saying have the child, because I don't know too many people that are eager about becoming parents at 19, but I'm also not telling you to abort. Just do something while you still have options.
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