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Talking and self confidence.
I have never really had high self confidence and I know I am really pretty, but other than my really close friends I never know what to talk about. I just sit there trying to think of something to say. I am always jealous of those girls that can just go up to anyone and make conversation so easily. Help? What do I say? How do I make people like me more?
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This issue is one that many people deal with actually, so you are not alone. In those situations it is always best to remain positive...maintain a good attitude and be inviting. Smile and your interest will come across. You don't need to feel nervous about it because once others see your confidence, they will be attracted to it. Confidence is good, but arrogance is not, so be careful not to confuse the two.The MOST IMPORTANT tip I could give you would be to just be yourself. Don't put the pressure on yourself to be what you think others want. You need to be happy with you and others will like that about you. There is no way to please everyone, but by being true to yourself it will become easier for you to talk to your peers. So, remain positive and seem interested and the rest will come with practice. They will love you for being genuine...no one likes a fake.
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Hi, I'm exactly like you, I never know what to say to people! But, here are a couple icebreakers I've been using, that are easy, but don't sound like they came out of a book:
1. A good way to start a conversation is to complement them. Like, if you love their bag, say, 'I really like your bag, is it from American Eagle?', even if it says American Eagle across the front. And then you can just sit back and nod and smile where you need to. Try not to be too fidgety!
2. Another way is to crack a joke if you have a good sense of humor. If your teacher is a total FREAK, you could say something like, "I'm pretty sure I saw that guy on FBI's Most Wanted last night." Just make sure you ask if they know him first, because that would be bad if that was their uncle or something!
Some more tips; ALWAYS SMILE! That doesn't mean walking down the hall, smiling at every cute boy and friendly-looking girl, but when you get a new assigned seat or something, just look pleasant when a person sits down next to you. It makes you seem more approachable, and they'll start the conversation easier. Don't always COUNT on them to begin, though.
Also, ALWAYS REMEMBER-the golden rule in my book-always fake it till you make it! Just because your laugh is a little forced doesn't mean you'll never improve! The more comfortable you get around a person, the easier it is to talk and laugh and smile.
And, lastly, just start out small. If there's another shy, quiet girl in your science class who's frantically looking around for a partner, ask if she wants to partner up with you. Work your way up from there, it'll get so much easier.
These seem so easy, and they work like a charm, so just be calm, and people will totally love you in no time! Good luck!
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