The nights are getting darker &the wind is cold
The summer sun has now become so old
Her closest friends were never meant to fade
With all these dreams that didn't make the grade
Close the doors but never look inside
Time will tell if all your love has died
"I've learned that things change, people change, and it doesn't mean you forget the past or try to cover it up. It simply means you move on and treasure the memories. Letting go doesn't mean giving up, it means accepting that some things weren't meant to be." [ gweedsx3's advice column | Ask gweedsx3 A Question ]
crash_and_burn answered Monday September 8 2008, 12:17 am: drifiting :
Some friendships, no matter how hard you try, never recover the joy they once had. But if you feel pain of regret or remorse when you think about a lost friend and do nothing about it, you'll never know what might have been.
Some friendships die because they aren't moving forward. They die from stagnation or plain neglect. You promised to call but didn't. You knew it was your friend's birthday, but were too busy to celebrate. When we're busy, we only do what comes easy, and even good friendships aren't always easy. Lack of attention and concern is sure to cause a rift. And when it does, it almost always catches us off guard, when we least expect it or can least handle it: when we're going through stressful times that make us less attentive and less able to respond—which is what caused the neglect to begin with. That's why it can seem that the best friendships break precisely when we need them the most.
Even with the best intentions, growing apart might just be an inevitable part of growing up. It’s no one’s fault, so there’s nothing to feel guilty about. It’s just the way things are.
- Second Helpings -
I saw you today and realized how far apart we’ve grown. I know I should talk to you and ask you how you’re doing. And I really wish I could. But it’s just occurred to me that we’re strangers now. You don’t know me anymore, much less want to, and it’s okay that you’ve moved on. I know that everything’s different now. I’ve been staying strong.
Through the tough times, there's always going to be those people who pretended to to be there for you when it was convenient for them. Then there's those who never left your side in the first place. Through everything they stayed there and made things seem so much better. It's these people you never forget, and it's these people you stay with when they're going through tough times themselves.
Our lives have taken us in so many directions since we first became friends, and yet our friendship has remained a lasting bond that keeps us from drifting too far apart. We've been there for each other in good times and bad, with support and sympathy, laughter and love. As I think about our friendship, I realize it is one of the things I cherish most about my life, and today, I just wanted to make sure you knew it too.
Our lives have taken us in so many different directions since we first became friends, and yet our friendship has remained a lasting bond that keeps us from drifting too far apart. We've been there for each other in good times and bad, with support and sympathy, laughter and love. As I think about our friendship, I realize it is one of the things I cherish most about my life, and today, I just wanted to be sure you knew it too.
Best friends are the ones who have been through what you've been through. They understand where you're coming from and where you're going. It's always a challenge to stick by a friend who's making choices we disagree with and are sometimes even dangerous, but it's at these times that our friends need us most.
You have four years to be irresponsible here. Relax. Work is for people with jobs. You’ll never remember class time, but you’ll remember the time you spent hanging out with your friends. So stay up late, go out on a Tuesday when you have a paper due Wednesday. Spend money you don’t have. Drink 'till sunrise. The work never ends, but college does.
- Tom Petty -
My point is, there are a lot of people in the world. No one ever sees everything the same way you do; it just doesn't happen. So when you find one person who gets a couple of things, especially if they're important ones...you might as well hold on to them.
- Sarah Dessen -
Once again, honesty is always the best policy. Even if it seems like being honest will mess everything up, possibly even destroy a perfectly good friendship, it is always the best way to go. In the long run, you won’t regret it.
- Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul on Love & Friendship -
She's learned that things hardly ever work out the way you want them to. She's noticed that there are always people who will let you down, and stab you the second you turn your back. But she's also learned that there are people out there who help make it better. Some people call them friends, but she calls them family.
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