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What to do? Break up? Wait? ????
Hi, my realationship is somehow difficult and complicated. It's hard to explain.
I met this girl 4 months ago. We officially went to bf and gf after 2 weeks or so. We had a great time, till I had to go back to europe. Before I left we decided that she moves to me to Europe to stay with me and learn german,...,...
The first couple weeks went great. She told me that she loves me all the time and that I'm so different and I'm the one. After like 6 weeks everything changed, she did not call that often anymore, she did not say I love you anymore. I know a long distance relationship is not easy, so I decided to fly over. She was very very happy to see me, she was so nice to me in front of all her friends. But the 2nd night she told me she loves me, but she is not in love with me, what does that mean? I know she is really really afraid of commitment, her earlyer b'friends did hurt her a lot when they broke up and they cheated on her and stuff. So I can understand that it is not easy for her. She told me she never going to trust a guy again. Also she told me she saw her ex boyfriend again and she does not know what she feels about him. I did not know what to say and we went on for the next day. We had another great week together, she always introduces me as her boyfriend and she tells me im cute and stuff. I could feel that she likes me. Before I left she also gave me her cloths for Europe with me and I met her mother and brother for dinner. Why would she introduce me to her family if she s not in love with me? I just do not know what to think, I'm somewhat confused. Maybe someone can give me some advice or advice. I can not talk about it with her, she blocks all the time.
She also told me she is really really afraid that when she is moving over that it will not work out and she doesn't know if she is ready to live with me, it's a huge comitment for her.
I mean I think there are signs that tell me, she is not loving you and she wants to break up. On the other hand she does always things that keep you on believe, oh, maybe she really cares and just doesn't want to show it because she doesn't want to get hurt when she goes 100% for it.
Thankfull for any advice, I will add some more input later.
Greetings from Switzerland
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Just talked to her on the phone. Sounded like everythin is allright. She told me she loves me and she's going to tell her boss that she quits in October next 2 weeks.
Sounded really excited about coming to Europe.
At the end of the phone she also told me, I love you honey.
I'm happy about that, but still confused about all this back and forth, yes and no stuff...
I try my best and go for gold :)
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Well...you have to take it slow if she wants to..If you love her a lot you will be willing to make that commitment..she is afraid but let her know that you will always be there for her and that you are different than all the other guys..when you lose all hope...you just have to say to her"i love you and i dont think you love me so I dont know if this will work out" she will probably spill all the beans if you say that. i really hope this works out for you...good luck
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If she told you she loves you but is not IN love with you, you probably need to move on. Its
possible to love someone just as a friend. I
think that is what she is trying to tell you.
Since this has become a long distance
relationship, I just don't think it
will work out. To maintain a healthy
loving relationship you have to work
on it all the time. You just can't do
that over the phone or online. When you
are not there it is easier to be with
people she sees everyday.
I think she has been trying to tell you
that. You probably need to try and accept
it and move on with your life.
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