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What it right to do this? -longer than normal-
My ex broke up with me and so I was upset and decided to just "live on." For the past 2-3 weeks he has been harassing my best friend. Before I sent a message saying "just stop, there is nothing let to say," he was sending me messages that said " you're immature, move one...blah blah blah." I never responded as he continued to blow up my phone. I figured it wasn't worth it. He dumped me out of the blue with no real explanation.
So as he still harasses my friend to this day.....I ran into him at Wal-Mart because he works there. I decided to wear a hoodie because I knew what his hours were and I didn't want to get caught up in it. I left my purse in the car under the seat so he wouldn't recognize it if I had it one me.
Well I did see him at the check out and I threw my hood up because i was convinced after an hour, that he was in the back. I guess he saw me but I decided to split because I didn't want him to walk over to me and start his mental crap. I just want to move on and live my life. But I guess he watched me until I disappeared so my mom said.
He knew it was me before I even took my hood off halfway to the door. To me it was a gesture "There is nothing left to say."
Was it wrong to do that? I'm not a dramatic person when it comes to moving on. I didn't want to get into it and then punch him and break his nose and then get kicked out.
Thanks.
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Don't waste your mental energy on this one.
He decided to interpret your last message of 'just stop harassing my friend' as you not being over him... so you can very confidently say that he is not able to interrupt your actions correctly. If you had tried to say a friendly hi to him to let him know things were cool, he would have thought you were in love with him. If you had kicked him in the balls, he would have thought he was the coolest guy in the world and you were a love-crazed lunatic. Lord, he lefty you a lengthy, irrational message. His perception and judgments are pretty messed up.
And besides him, and maybe your mom, who even knows what you did? Only you.
You know why you did what you did, and even though you might doubt yourself a bit, there wasn�t anything really wrong with it, so why waste your time worrying? So you were a bit dramatic. Who cares?
Do yourself a favor though, stay out of whatever fight he has with your friend. Encourage her to take the same approach you are: completely ignore him. Their fighting shouldn�t prolong your contact with him. Support HER. Supporting her doesn�t mean contacting him. Do NOT connect with him, EVER.
EDIT IN RESPONSE TO FEEDBACK:
No, I don't think your response to your friend is wrong, you just need to phrase it in a bit more of a polite way. Try saying it this way instead:
"Look, I have to ingore him now or else I'll be miserable and upset, so if you want to keep responding to his bullshit, that's okay, but I can't be involved anymore and I'd really apperciate it if you wouldn't tell me about it."
She is your friend, so of course sometimes it might come up in conversation and you should be supportive. Just don't involved.
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i think you should have stayed where you were unless you were getting ready to walk out and if he approached you, nicely say i have nothing to say to you and please leave me alone.. look him straight in the eyes so he knows you mean it.. as far as your bestfriend.. that probly means he isnt over you and is not sure why he himself broke up with you. calling you immature and stuff i been throw all that with guys. and dont text back dont answer dont anything eventually he will get the picture.. i am sorry you are going threw it good luck
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