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best friend or boyfriend?
Okay about 6 months ago this guy really liked me and wanted to be with me... I didn't feel the same. Since then we've become bestfriends. Like he knows everything about me. Now I think I have feelings for him. But he keeps telling me about how he might get back with his ex.. I don't think he sees me as more than a best friend now but i dont really know. And i also don't want to mess up everything with him and his ex that likes him again.
What do i doooooo?
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Honestly. I would take a walk to figure it all out.
If you feel that you and this guy, your best friend could manage a seriously relationship that won't wreck what you already have, then I would try to find out what he wants more.
Something that he tried once, and didn't work out [[ which in most cases don't work the second time around]] or you in which he could trust you with his soul. His best friend. His potential girlfriend. Someone that he feels safe with and can depend on.
I know this sounds cheesy but listen to "When you love someone" by Bryan Adams. It has helped me pick out things like that. Exactly what you've been going through. It helped me realize if I could handle it with a guy I trust with every inch of my life, a close friend.
And if you can picture you're self together and making it through the hard times, don't hold back. But if you have a SERIOUS doubt in your heart, don't go through with it.
Ask yourself this:
Am I better with him or without him?
-KD/f/15
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It's hard when you start crushing on your best friend...I know I have been there.
But you have to think...how would you feel if you never found out and he got together with his ex? There would always be that what if? question nagging at you.
You say he is your best friend, just tell him. Tell him how you really feel and how you think you might like him, you never know he might like you back the same.
My best friend liked me back but we were both to afraid of ruining it we missed out. We finally told eachother the day before he moved.
It seems hard, but if you really have a solid friendship, even if he doesn't like you, you can work to still be friends. It might be a little weird at first, but it will pass.
And it might make him rethink his feelings about you, so many people find out someone they know likes them and they start also to develop feelings as they really think about the other person.
My advice: Give it a try.
Trinity
If you ever need more advice/help or just want to talk, email me or whatever, my ears are always open.
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