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looking up conversation topics
15/f
do you think its weird for someone to "brush up" on conversation topics before leaving the house, for ex: spending time looking it up on the internet or watching the show that everybody likes.
the idea sounds a little unsettling to me. i want to do it, to get over my shyness, but it feels like brushing up on conversation topics is like going out of your way for others to like you.
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I think everyone should do this.
If you don't have knowledge about a topic that someone is interested in then you're not going to have a decent conversation. This is why we have newspapers, CNN, local news stations, and the like. We have to keep up on what is happening around us because others are interested in it too and it makes for good conversation because of that.
When people say, "we ended up talking about the weather," it's because they couldn't make decent conversation, and it's because EVERYONE knows about the weather. It becomes daily common knowledge so it's easy to conversate about it; although, it isn't pleasing because it's uninteresting, for the most part. If that is all you have to talk about (and you're both not weather forecasters or something around those lines) then it shows disinterest in the person and their likes/dislikes.
Some people do not need to "brush up" because they already know about what the person is interested in. If someone is always talking about hunting and you know all about hunting, fishing, and guns, and you have been doing it for years, then there is probably no need to "brush up" before engaging in a conversation.
However, if you're put into that same situation and you have never left the city, never even seen a gun in real life, and think you could never place a bullet or arrow into a living being, then you're either going to have to education yourself for a conversation or simply don't communicate at all. You cannot just pull interesting, decent information out of thin air ;)
People are interested in all sorts of things. Once you figure out what they like to talk about then you're pretty much set. You can find all sorts of information to talk about and can keep a conversation going longer.
This is a very impressive thing to do. Many people are pleased when they run into people they can actually TALK to about what they're interested in. You become interesting and entertaining. It opens a door for the conversation and the person usually becomes more interested in what YOU like too. You are more likely to become a friend to this person because they will that it is easy to talk to you.
This method impresses your bosses, coworkers, friends, and family. You enlarge your circle of interesting, different friends. You get better jobs because you're more relaxed around the boss. You are, over-all, more liked and more likely to be approached by others.
If you haven't been alive too long, or are poorly education, then you probably don't have a decent amount of knowledge as it is. You definately should be cramming your brain full of information for discussions--present and future. Once you get the hang of this you'll find yourself needing to research topics less and less--you'll simply have interesting topics to discuss already stored.
In short, this is a wonderful idea that everyone should be doing now. Do not be ashamed to do this. Everyone likes people they can have an interesting discussion with.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me :)
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no it's not weird! HONESTLY speaking, there are just SOME PEOPLE who are sooo quiet and everytime you ask "what's up" they say "nothing." it's really quite annoying, so it's always good to have questions to ask or movies to talk about!
if you think about it, you always have to go out of your way for people to like you, otherwise no one will like you! so don't worry too much about it. but because you're shy, i strongly suggest when someone says "what's up" say what you did that day even if it's stupid. at least if you say "eh not much just lazed around" then AT LEAST the other person can say, "hahah yeah i like doing that, especially in the wintertime when ..." and they can talk about something. it's really difficult for people to find you interesting if all you say is "nothing." / "i'm fine. how are you?" so i think it's fine that you look up conversation topics :)
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It's definitely going out of your way if it's not something that you normally do, but that's not a bad thing. If you want to talk to people, it's good to be informed. Reading up on the latest news and watching popular television shows are things we all do. Perhaps we do it just for enjoyment, but also because it makes us feel connected to others. I love discussing sports, TV shows, world events, and popular culture with my friends, family, and people I meet. These things connect everybody in the world and make it easier to realize how similar we are to other people. So if you're changing up your usual routine to do this, of course you're going out of your way, but there's nothing wrong with that!
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