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i suck at talking on the phone
my boyfriend and i talk on the phone A LOT. mostly because he wants to. i have never been the one to talk on the phone a whole lot. but there will be awkward silences and stuff. and he always is the one to think of stuff to talk about. can somebody give me ideas of what to talk about BESIDES: what we want to do next time we see eachother, what we want in life, our past, and what we did that day! i mean. theres not much else to talk about. and sometimes he will be like "baby i'm horny" and it gets all awkward and i don't know what to say to that to make it now awkward! and i can't stop him from saying that because according to him he should "be able to tell his girlfriend his mental and physical needs without it being awkward". so i asked him what does he want me to say to that kind of stuff and he doesn't give me a straight answer.
thanks!
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My advice is this: be firm about not allowing your phone calls to go over 20 minutes and not more than once a day. Calls can be great for checking in, but if you're not a phone person, it's perfectly acceptable to uphold those boundaries. Cutting off all phone contact is excessive, but so is talking on the phone so much you're running out of material.
As for the horny phone calls, I would suggest you be firm about this. Your sexuality and comfort should not be compromised. Do you make room in your relationship to talk about sex in person? If so, ask him to talk about his feelings to you then and not over the phone.
You didn't state how old you were, but if you're not sexually active yet, even more reason to let him know his conversation is making you feel ill at ease.
There comes a time in every young woman's life where she needs to make small stands for herself and if one of them is reclaiming some of your life back to spend NOT on the phone and NOT hearing him talk about his horniness, then so be it. This is good practice for all the other times in your life where you will have to say no to a man in order to be true to yourself.
So how to be firm about not talking on the phone? Just tell him you have to go and you're looking forward to seeing him next. Trust on this one too, not being available all the time to talk on the phone will increase his interest in you, not decrease it.
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Tell him to call a 900 number if you are not comfortable talking dirty. There is no reason whatsoever that you are required to be his own personal phone tramp. He is supposed to respect you and not put you in situations where you are uncomfortable. He is being a typical selfish and immature guy. Hang up on him if he does it again. This guy is so lame he does not even have the balls to tell you what he wants you to say...this is not a guy you should waste another hot deep breath on.
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I used to be the same way and still am when it comes to talkin dirrty on the phone...I've improved by talking about simple things when you can't think of anything to say. tell him what you've been up to ask him what he's been up to. when he says he's horny...u can simply respond ''really or mhhhmm'' he will respnd with a yes and you can simply say ''we will see about that later in person'' or something similar to suggest you just want to act on it and are not comfortable talking dirty or having phone sex...which I hate!
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you have to get into it when he says hes horny help him you two can talk dirty on the phone to make him feel better and as for the awkward silence cut it out by talking bout how he feels bout your relationship and how he thinks it going and just tease eachother in a funny way to sexual just make fun of him a little jus to annoy him that will cut the silence out. good luck!!! :)
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