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Stupid Hormones....
I'm not a boy-crazy person. I'm 16 years old, I've never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, and that has never bothered me. However I met one of the new staff at my high-school. Well he's obviously an older man (late 20's) and he's, for lack of a better term, hot. And as level-headed as I believe myself to be, I am also a teenage girl with a tendency to fantasize and flirt. This can not end anyway but in embarassment and disaster, and I'll most likely see him everyday. How can I go to school, interact with the man and keep myself in check?
To make this clear, No I don't wish to persue a relationship with the man, it's just the thought of the man's tongue down my throat doesn't exactly freak me out.
Thanks,
StupidHormones
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OH, you remind me so much of myself at 16!!!
I agree with the other answer you have received. It is best to avoid flirting given he works at your school. These days teachers and other adults are getting into a lot of trouble for relationships with teenagers whether they are appropriate or not. For his sake, you may want to have as limited contact with him as possible, especially given you DO have those raging hormones and they can be a bit unpredictable. At least you are smart enough and responsible enough to recognize this.
I had a crush on a man when I was 16 and he was in his upper 20's. He worked at my doctor's office and was finishing college. I had a dream about him... a very nice dream *wink* and I wish I had been as intelligent as you. I decided to TELL him! I called the doctor and asked for him and asked if he would be able to talk with me for a few minutes when he got off of work. I had just gotten my driver's lisence two weeks before so I was able to drive myself.
I don't want to discuss it much more (LOL) but let me just say it did not end well and I spent a LONG time being totally embarassed about it.
You are saving yourself a lot of embarassment and mental anguish by avoiding this guy. I look back on it and laugh now but seriously... I wish I was more intelligent and less hormonal at 16. I had to find a new doctor.
You can't exactly go to a different school.
Best of luck.
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Dear StupidHormones,
At your age, it is PERFECTLY NORMAL to be feeling this way- especially about an older guy! So don't doubt that for a second! But, in my opinion, (and i'm sure of many others as well) it's good that you've been saving yourself and not just taking what comes along. Since you're most likely to flirt with this guy, my advice would be to do it at a distance...For your benefit, AND his. You see, this guy works at your school...If any other authorities (including your principal, teachers, students, etc...) see even the slightest thing to make them think there is an innapropriate relationship between the two of you, word WILL get around, and more importantly, you could get that guy in SERIOUS TROUBLE. Even if you defend him by saying you did all the flirting, it could STILL be used against him. Here's what i would do, just try to keep your distance, admire from afar, and maybe try to find someone your own age to distract you from him. Who knows? The right guy for you could be just around the hallway. =]
Stay strong,
GodsGift2Writing
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