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I'm killing my self esteem
I used to be confident, satisfied, and comfortable with myself.
Now, I'm far from it. I can do anything without judging my every thought, every want, every action. Even as I write this I worry 'what would people think if they found out I result to an internet advice sight to gain some sense of mind'. I'm going crazy, I hate not being able to do anything without worrying if it'll hurt me, make me fat, make me lose a friend, break a rule, look dumb, sound stupid, look ugly, seem dorky, or even if I'll regret it the next minute.
What can I do to clear my head of all my new found insecurities, I don't know what has brought them on me. I'm mentally exhausted from fighting them.
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Ok first take some deep breaths
then push out all the negative things u think twords yourself and maybe talk to your mom or someone u can open up to about things
i have low self esteem too and i have manic depression but ive learned to be happy with my self and take life as it comes =]
and maybe think about what caused these insecurities parents, dating, siblings. I hope i helped and if you need anything else let me knnow
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k here are some steps to help you gain some self esteem.
Step 1: Stop negative self talk. Self talk is the ongoing conversation you have with yourself. Every time you hear yourself saying and affirming negative stuff about yourself TO yourself, STOP IT. Don't let one more negative thing about you get planted in your mind.
Step 2: Say positive things to yourself every single day. Every morning and every night make it a point to say nothing but positive, self esteem building stuff to you. You will be amazed how much better you will feel about yourself and your life. Remember, you have to teach yourself how to gain self esteem first, then you can teach others.
Step 3: Stop inflicting negative junk on other people. Every time you hear yourself saying something negative to someone else....STOP IT. Don't be responsible for filling someone else with negative junk. Showing patience, gentleness, and kindness will go a long ways toward building up the self esteem in someone else.
Step 4: Don't let yourself get caught up in tearing others down behind their backs. Some of the worst things you can do are gossip, tell negative stories about others, or break the confidence of someone who placed their trust in you. When people find out what you said about them it can be a devastating blow to their self esteem because they believe what they hear, whether it's true or not.
Step 5: SET the example of right behavior to others. Don't just tell them; show them by building other people up on purpose. Look for positive things to say by using God's Word as a guide. Eventually people will get the idea that you're not interested in listening to a bunch of negative junk. Self esteem improvement in others will only come if you help the process every chance you get.
Good luck:)
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