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trying to get a girl that is my friend to see me as more
I have a girl that i know and we are friends and i would like to be more than friends but i dont want to risk loosing her as a friend if it doesnt work out.
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Well, here are some things girls like in a guy. I think it might help you;
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From there:
1. A good sense of humor.
- A good sense of humor is always beneficial. And not a stupid "that's what she said!" sense of humor, somebody who can genuinely make an original joke. Making a girl laugh is one of the best things you can do in an effort to "win her heart".
2. Intelligence.
-Being smart is good, too. Us girls don't want to talk to somebody who can't count higher than 10, or who doesn't understand what's happening in the world. You don't have to be a total know it all, just smart enough to hold a decent conversation.
3. Nice guys.
- Nice guys DON'T finish last. If you compliment a girl, chances are she won't forget it any time soon. However, if you're mean to a girl, she'll remember for A LOT longer.
4. A good appearance.
- I'm not going to lie and don't think I'm shallow, but looks are all you have to go on for the first few minutes of knowing somebody. So if you're shirts half untucked, your shoes are untied, and your hair is unbrushed and a mess, chances are girls won't be into it.
5. Showing interest/having similar interests.
- I cannot tell you how attractive it is when I'm talking to a guy and he asks my favorite band, and the replies with, "I love The Rocket Summer, too!" Ask questions, and tell her when you like something she likes. If you have a lot in common, your relationship will go a lot farther than if you have nothing in common.
Those, however, are just the things I like but like I said, it's different for different girls. But a good sense of humor and giving a girl compliments are DEFINETE ins.
As far as if you should ask her out or whatever, why not? Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:
1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.
I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking her if she's into you too, or simply asking her out yourself.
Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show her you're interested in her. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...
As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a girl how you really feel about her?
Good luck =]
-Laura (16-f)
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getting from friends to more than friends with a girl is pretty much impossible, they tend to be mutually exclusive, like 2 separate ladders. either you are climbing the friend ladder, or the dating ladder. now sometimes, if you are extremely lucky, and get to the very top of the friend ladder, you can make a jump onto the dating ladder, but even then, you have to start at the bottom of it.
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If you date a friend you take the risk of possibly loosing the friendship. If you two are agreeing to take the risk then maybe talk to your friend and let her know that you care very much about her and that if it doesn't work out that you would like to remain her friend. If you decide to date her make sure you take it slow or at the speed she wishes.
Good luck
-Bahaima22
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