So basically, I'm still in love with my ex. He broke up with me because he 'couldn't handle a relationship', and then ended up hooking up with a few girls over the summer. He also started hanging out with Sally a lot more before and after the break up, and he said he did 'notice' her while we were dating. Now, he's still seeing this girl, and he likes her because she is 'nice, sweet, cute, and funny'. But then he tells me he enjoys spending time with me more than with her.
I feel kinda pathetic, but I want him back. And I really don't know how to go about it at this point.
So, I guess the question is: Is he gonna choose her when the time comes? and if so, How do I prevent that, if possible?
Additional info, added Sunday August 10 2008, 2:04 am: I also foound out today that he's done sexual stuff with her, but nothing past hand jobs. Of course, while I know all of this and he's still telling me that he wants to have sex with me (we were dating for the better half of a year and were sexually active), she has no idea that he's still involved with me. GAH!
. Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? kiran answered Sunday August 10 2008, 12:22 am: Well this guy said at first that he couldn't handle a relationship. Can he handle it now? I don't think he is worth your time. Thats just my opinion. He is gonna keep bouncing back and forth with these girls. So he says Sally is nice, sweet, cute and funny. And now he enjoys spending time with you? If you guys get together, what makes you think he won't say the same thing about her. If he does choose her, forget about it. There is the right guy for you and this guy might not be it. He he comes crawling back to you, its your choice. But what kind of guy is this? Its your call. Good luck! [ kiran's advice column | Ask kiran A Question ]
HeyyyEdith answered Saturday August 9 2008, 7:56 pm: honestly, don't go back to him, he seems like he isn't any good for you or your heart.
so you might as well start the healing process now, instead of getting yourself into another heart break.
i know it's going to be hard, but you deserve someone who won't tell you they aren't ready for a relationship, and then go off and have a thing with someone else.
basically he's saying you're not worth it, so don't treat him like he's worth it.
just think about it this was, would you rather be in a relationship with him, but know that he notices other girls when he's with you or would you rather be single and wait for a guy who treats you and acts like you're worth it.
hope i helped. good luck! [ HeyyyEdith's advice column | Ask HeyyyEdith A Question ]
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