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Rudeness
I work for a man and I also help his mother out with caregiving duties. I went in to ask him 2 quick questions about his mother. I also handed him the bill for my services. I told him that I knew he was busy and would keep it short. After handing him the statment and another paper he had requested he just got up and walked out and left me standing there. I needed to ask one more question but when I approached him again when he came back, he veered off and avoided me. I told him I would come back later and when I did before leaving for the night. He wouldn't even look at me or talk to me, just waved me off with this look of pure anger on his face. I was hurt and angery myself but didn't say one word, just left.
Later I told him on a voice message, please just leave my check on the desk and that I would pick it up and he wouldn't have to talk to me even and that I wouldn't other him for the rest of the week. So now what? He has not said one word and I haven't seen him in a week as I have been out of the office with other things. This is not the first time he has been rude, but this is the worst.
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Boy. This guy sounds like a real flake.
But, FIRST of all, you do not give any important information. What do you mean you "work for a man" ??????? Are you employed through a care-giver agency or are you doing this on your own????? <blink> <blink>
You do not tell us how your working relationship is... did this MAN hire you or did his MOTHER hire you? Who is supposed to pay you? I do not even know how old you or he are!
SECONDLY, you did not mention what those two quick questions about his mother were. I mean, how personal or impersonal were your questions about his mother? We cannot tell if you offended him or not!
THIRDLY, you handed him your bill, and I hope you were polite and casual about it! I do not know what you mean by you knew that he was busy and that you would keep it short, I hope it was a polite and friendly statement! I'm not jumping to conclusions against you, I just do not know by what you say what has happened!
FOURTHLY... if "... he just got up and walked out and left me standing there..." then returned and avoided you, either you offended him or he did not want to pay you for some reason or BOTH!!!!! But we cannot tell from what you say what this is all about! Good grief!
IF you can get your pay, I would suggest you never go back to his office again! Or wherever this is happening, just stay away!
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It doesn't matter.
Seriously. It doesn't. It would nicer if he was polite, however, him being rude doesn't change the professional manner in which you should respond to an employer.
I'm not saying you weren't professional, but part of being professional is shrugging off other people's behavior and maintaining a professional level of detachment.
Part of being professional, is not caring so much and not getting offended.
You really have no idea who this man is, or what his problem is. It's not even your place to know. If you had another question that was important to have answered in order for you to your job, you should have included in your message or followed him with a friendly but firm ‘I’m sorry to disturb you, but this is very important.’
Don’t let yourself get so personally involved in whatever this man’s bullshit is. It’s not your problem. Your problem is only if you don’t get what you need from him. Although it would be nice if he were polite, you don’t NEED polite. You do NEED the information. So be aggressive in seeking the information that you, as a professional, require, and be patient and tolerant of his bad behavior without letting it affect you, as a professional.
There will always be rude people, but you can't let them get too on the job. You just have to do your job, as well as you can, and ignore them.
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