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His Mom Wants Me Gone! (I think)
I'm working my local fair this week, and my boyfriend's mom was there too. She said that I had lice and needed to leave, of course, I did. The thing is that I've had more than four people check my head, I've never noticed anything and neither has anyone else (I've been around A LOT of people). Turns out, I don't have it.
I thought she just made a mistake, but then I found out that she's done this once before to one of her son's girlfriends. And she did it just to get rid of her. Not to mention, I heard that my boyfriend took off and rode rides with his buddy and did all kinds of stuff, knowing that I was very upset. I even chopped my hair cause I was so upset, yet that shows that he didn't care very much.
Should I give his mom the benefit of the doubt? Should I stay with my boyfriend, or is he even worth my time? Is any of this worth my time?
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Well, I think the FIRST thing you have to address is the REASON for why your boyfriend's mother does not like you!!!! LICE !!!! <blink> <blink>
WHAT on EARTH gave her the idea you have lice? From what you say, this is not a physical problem, but rather, an emotional problem of your boyfriend's mother against you!
I would say from what you are saying that she does not like you as a person, as well as she did not like the other girl your boyfriend was with. Your best bet is to talk to your boyfriend and ask him what his mother has said about you, and, what he thinks this is all about. Then you need to ask HIM what HE thinks about YOU !!!!
I don't know. MAYBE his mother is being overprotective? MAYBE his mother is not totally sane? I don't know. I do not know your personality or your boyfriend's personality or his mother's personality. To stretch it a LONG way out of reality, MAYBE your boyfriend and his mother are having an incest relationship? Mmmmmmmphphmmmmph....phhh..... <blink> <blink> I did not say that!!!!
Whatever, you and your boyfriend are going to have to have a heart-to-heart talk about this, or maybe you should just be casual friends and leave out the romance. But I just do not know. This is like a doctor trying to diagnose an illness over the telephone without seeing his or her patient in person!
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First off, seperate your problems.
Problem One: You suspect your boyfriend's mother lied to you to get rid of you.
Problem Two: You think your boyfriend was insenstive.
How to deal with Problem One:
Who told you that 'She's done that before?' because unless it was her son himself, yes, you should give her the benifit of the doubt. However, benifit of the doubt doesn't mean you have to like her or pretend like it never happened. Next time you see her just friendly and clearly announce that she was mistaken, you didn't have lice, and thank her for looking out for you. Feel free to be a little wary of her in the future. She might have been innocently mistaken, or she might be a mega bitch, only time will tell.
How to deal with Problem Two:
Tell him how you feel. Don't accuss him of anything just tell him how you FEEL: "I feel really hurt and sad that I went home you got to keep having fun. I felt like you didn't care that I was really upset and scared." He probably didn't realize what a big deal it was. He deserves the benifit of the doubt too. Tell him how it made you feel and see how he responds. If he blows you off agian... well, then you have a clearer answer.
Only you can answer for yourself if this is all worth your time or not. Whatever you decide, always break up what seems like one big problem into it's smaller componants, that makes it easier to approach.
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