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I dont understand.
So everytime i get a boyfriend that i do really like, my feelings change all of a sudden. and i dont want anything to do with them. and i dont know why. i mean i really do like them, but i find ways to avoid them sometimes. its so weird. or i get worried that there too obsessive.[sp] and i dont know its so weird.
can anybody tell me why? or anything about this.
thank you!
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Aw, I hate having this problem -- It's so weird, right!?
In my opinion, it's usually an issue of it not being a challenge anymore. You're not trying to get the guy anymore so you don't have to be quite as flirty, or work towards anything, really. If this seems like an issue, wait it out. It gets better with time, and if you really like a guy, it won't be a problem at all. Also, make your own little challenges up. Falling in love, lasting a certain amount of time, getting to a certain physical level, doing a certain fun date, etc. Remember that even if you're already with a guy, you still gotta work! (;
If you're worried they're too "obsessive", you've gotta try to put that out of your mind. This could seem annoying once you start dating a guy, but when you start to REALLY like them, it's a good thing. You know you can trust them a ton and that they won't hurt you, to look on the positive side. If it really bothers you THAT much, think about why he seems "obsessed", and think about whether or not he actually even is. Just don't shy away if he seems like he is -- Embrace it! Make this guy really want you.
The avoiding them is also kind of a common issue a lot of girls surprisingly have. If you don't feel comfortable alone with them, start off with hanging out with a group of friends, then alone just cuddling or watching movies or something -- It's not so bad. If you just want your own time, that's also completely fine, just make time for your guy.
Really, there's no specific way to fix these problems. I can tell you from experience it takes a lot of time and patience, and sometimes not even that. Sometimes you'll find these things won't bother you at all very randomly. Once you find someone you REALLY want to be with and know a lot about already, it'll be effortless.
If this all continues to be an issue, I'd recommend you try to find someone you're very close with already, feel comfortable hanging out alone with (as friends first), and REALY want.
XOXO
KAT.
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Ugh, I hate this problem.
The getting the guy
and then after a week
not wanting to talk to them.
In my case i think it
has to do with them not being a challenge
anymore.
or
That i like to do my own thing. I dont like
anybody telling me who i can talk to, asking me
where im at or who im with.
This may be why you feel this
way but you have to sit back and think
about it. When you do that im sure you can figure
out why.
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Truthfully, I am the exact same way. I find guys that I know are right for me then I run. I think it has to do with being scared, you know scared of like messing it up, I don't know. I wish I knew because I have the exact same problem, and I usually cry b/c I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Maybe its a matter of being alone with him. Because I'm not exactly sure, I would say to just force yourself to date him at least once or look at him. That way your trying to break the so called fear. ya know? I'm sorry Iknow how you feel though, b/c im the same way. I am afraid b/c I have lost a lot of trust for people. I dont know. good luck, if you have any questions or figure out just write back :)
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