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I feel sooo bad.
Fourteen Female.
Okay so I hadn't seen Benamin since Friday and he wanted to see me, and my parents were out and still aren't home so I was like come over it'll be fun.
Well we were ust hanging out, like usual. Were friends, that yeh a little bennifits but it's just fun [[and no nothing below the belt.]]
Well Friday night I got Breaking Dawn-- an amazing book and we weren't doing much so I started reading it while sitting in the recliner chair. So he started messing with me and was like "Your such a nerd- only you would read with ME in the room." Which is true, a lot of girls in my school like him.. and like obsess.. =X
so he climbed on me, and tried taking the book away and he had my legs pinned with his knees and I dont know how it happened. He leaned and started kissing my neck.. and stuff. Kind of groping\grinding me. This is the furthest this has ever gone. We do kiss but its just joking. or just to me.. And a lot of people have been telling me to date Ben but he's just a friend but he's amazing and I was hoping to feel something for him but I couldn't.
So I let things get out of hand, letting it happen when all of sudden he jumped off me and ran for the bathroom. To say the least I was scared i did something wrong... hurt him. Or or something.
ten minutes later.. when he came out he was so red. And I didnt know why. He just started apoligising. "Katie, Im so so so sorry. I can't believe that happened. It wont happen again.. I swear." Just rambaling. And I was like What happened? he looked at me like I was on crack and I sorta wish he never told me. He was like. "Katie... I just got.. hard on you."
----MEH!
He left very sortly after that and I've tried talking to him because his friend Ralph called and was like duude.. you need to talk to him I swear he's gunna get a vasectame he's so embarressed.
=X I feel horrible. I could have stopped it before that happened and Ive been trying to talk to him. To explain it's not that big of a deal.. and he wont listen.
Is it normal for boys my age to.. get hard that easy? I don't know what these means. I mean im friends with him, close but. Ahh. I don't want Ralph making fun either... Can you help getting hard? I donno.. how can I make this right?
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Are you sure this is just a friends with benefits thing, first of all? I'm just wondering, because if it was, he probably would have um.. Maybe tried to go further if it weren't the case. The fact that he cared what you thought makes it seem like he likes you as a little bit more of a 'play thing'.
If you really don't think it was a big deal, sit him down and be completely blunt: "It wasn't a big deal. It's normal." Really, it is easy for that to happen with guys. It could happen with them just thinking about something, happens randomly, could happen when you're just cuddling/kissing, and of course if he was 'grinding' on you, it'd happen.
It could mean a lot of things. I mean, maybe he was thinking about what it would be like if you guys went further, but the fact that he didn't actually try proves that he's not a complete pig. He just really couldn't help it in that situation. Whether you guys are just friends or not, it's a physical thing that he can't really help.
Just talk to him and let him know that you don't care. Just ask why he got so embarrassed. If it was just that he got a little.. "happy", let him know that's fine. If it's because he has stronger feelings for you, talk to him about that. Let him know not to be embarrassed, because you don't really care. Just talk to him like you normally would in the mean time/afterwards, and act like nothing happened if that needs to be what you have to do.
Don't worry, it'll just be something you guys look back and laugh at. It wasn't your fault, either. So don't worry about that. :P
XOXO
KAT.
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Well, if you DO like Ben as more than a friend..I think now would be a GRREAT time to tell him :D
And somewhere, I forgot where, I heard guys can get it from just their pants being a bit too tight! yeahh thats all I could think about when that skater guy hugged me and picked me up..
NO i dont have a dirty mind. Its just...who knew it could be that easy? :X
Sorry I couldnt help much more, Im not at all experienced at this sorta stuff.
But I think he likes you. Lol, or something. Soo just, like, I dunno give him a little gift. Not something too big. Just his favorite candy with a cute little note and a ribbon or something :D
I bet hed love it.
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umm.. im pretty sure it's normal for teens. my parents always used to tell me that i shouldnt be alone with a guy too long. thye jsut can thelp it..... :|.
anyway, good luck!
lori 16/f
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Oh dear. The trials and tribulations of the teenage years.
"Getting hard" or in other words, getting an erection, especially in the teenage years is very hard to control. Even with the slightest touch or slightest smell, it can just happen.
Try calling him or talking to him one more time and tell him that it's ALRIGHT. He's just a normal teenager. If it really didn't bother you, TELL HIM. Yes, you may have tried, but maybe you didn't say EXACTLY what was needed to be said.
Tell him that you would never hate him or think less of him for something like that, which he cannot easily control.
--Jack
(16/m)
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