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Alright. My boyfriend broke up with me last March, leaving me to chase after another girl and reasoning that we just "didn't get along anymore."
I was devastated. I had been together with him for over 3 years and had spent the majority of our time together. He was my best friend and other half. He didn't talk to me for about 2 weeks, most of which I cried.
When he came back from college for the summer, we were on cordial enough terms that we thought we could see each other briefly, perhaps share a beer or two and catch up. We began to hang out more frequently, and soon found ourselves having sex again on a regular basis. He maintained that while he "wanted to be my friend," he "still didn't want to get back together with me."
Things with him and the girl he had been chasing after subsided. I meanwhile grew frustrated since I still loved him after all this time, and eventually decided to move on to someone else.
Old boyfriend now calls me all the time, tells me he feels "weird and sick" when he pictures me and my new guy together. He recently left for a 3 day trip to Chicago and said that he knew me and this new guy were going to spend all that time together which made him feel "nauseous."
What's up with this? Advice?
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Tell him to go vomit in someone else's ear, and leave you well enough alone.
He wanted to be your friend, but casual sex was cool! Now that he can't get casual sex no more... well boo hoo... he thinks maybe if he gives you a little bit of hope he can get things back to the way they were. With you waiting patiently for him and him doing whatever the hell he felt like, whenever he felt like it.
Tell him if were a real friend, he would keep his feelings to himself after expressing them honestly once and stop screwing with your mind.
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Your ex isn't worth this. You should be able to go out with this new guy. If your ex can go out with another girl then you can go for another guy. Just forget about him right now and focus on this new guy. He might be jealous but seriously, just forget about him. Just give it a little time and maybe it might work out between you two. He said he wanted to be friends. So keep it as friends for now. Your new guy is what you should be focusing on now and forgetting about your ex. I hope everything works out for you!
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Owch! Well first, it depends on how you still feel about this ex. If you still really have feelings for him, this is going to come of as maybe a little harsh.
It honestly sounds like you're his 'back-up girl'. Things were good, but once he saw something new, he kind of seemed to give up and chase the new girl. Once he realized that was over, he knew he could go back to you, because you still had feelings. Now that he's alone again, he's decided to move onto you again.
While he COULD still sincerely have some feelings, try to question how strong they actually are. Maybe it bothers him to see you with this new guy, but he didn't seem to really consider how YOU were feeling when he was chasing that new girl. He seems so on/off, and I wouldn't recommend breaking off what you have now for something so unstable; You may regret it later.
You could always forgive him, but don't forget what he did! There's no saying you can't be friends, but I would highly suggest you keep it to a strictly FRIENDS situation. It'll save you a lot of hurt. If he seems like he's changing over TIME, that's one thing, but give it time. Let him know how he made you feel, and why you're making whatever decision you make.
I really hope this has helped in some way, and that everything works out for you! You deserve so much better than what's happened, so I hope you take my advice into consideration.
XOXO
KAT.
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