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How To Confront Someone Who Has Used You
I am a 16 year old female girl.
Well, it all starts about a year ago. I developed feelings for a guy. He was everything I had ever wanted in a guy. As well as he was my dream guy, he was also a friend of mine. My otherfriend somehow decided that she was entitled to him, and went after him. For about 7 months I hadn't talked to either of them, because I hadn't seen them and the awkwardness of the situation. Then out of the blue, he contacted me. He asked me if I had ever yelled at her, called her names, or harassed her. I was shocked. I replied "No...why would you ask that? Does that even SOUND like me?" Apparently my ex-friend had lied about me to make me sound bad so that she would win him over. He also had found out that she lied about nearly everything else in her life. What a great relationship, eh? He was furious, and I was hurt. She apologized later in an e-mail, and I soon found out she only lied to make me sound horrible because she was afraid I would steal him from her. Of course, I never would have done that because I had been over him for a very long time.
Well, this guy friend of mine can never let things go. He hates when people lie to him, and just forgiving her off the bat (as I did )wasn't an option. I felt bad for him, and I was still a little annoyed at her. He somehow convinced me to cheat with him in order to get back at her and make her feel horrible, so I gave him oral sex.I might add that it was the first time I'd ever done that. I realize that at the moment, it was a horrible decision and I was very stupid to let him talk me into it. However,in the process, a flood of the old feelings I had came back. Within seconds, the feelings I had of strictly friendship toward him turned into something else completely. I talked to him later, and he said to me "Oh my god...why did I do that? I was trying to make my girlfriend feel horrible, but I only succeeded in making myself feel that way." I knew that we had no real relationship besides friends, but it then truly hit me. I had been used. Since, I have not been able to sleep much. I toss and turn at night. I want to confront him and tell him I don't appreciate being used like that, but I don't know how. I don't even know if it's better not to confront him. I'm very attracted to him, and want to repeat what we did the other day, but it was a one time thing. I still feel used.
These old feelings of like/lust/betrayal have started to come up, while I have this other guy that I am interested in, and he is interested in me. We enjoy all the same things, and we just get along great. There is definitely something between us. It's just pure chemistry. So currently I have feelings of lust toward my friend, while I'm confused about my feelings toward the guy I really do like.
I need advice. input. what can i do to make things right?
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ok like Healer said, forget the first guy. hes used you and hes not worth your time. you may need to mention what happened with your friend. yeah, she will be mad, but its better than the chance he'll tell her and make everything seem like your fault. at least if you tell her, she has your input and can't say you made it up if you fessed up.
now to how you feel about her boyfriend: you liked him before, you will probably alawys care a little for him, especially after having any sort of sex with him. you have a physical connection with him, but you have a better emotional connection with the other guy. and look, if a guy has oral sex with you to make his girlfriend jealous, he probably aint a good friend to have. stay away from him at all costs. time heals emotional wounds best. you said you forgot about those feelings before after you just stayed away from him. stick with the other guy that you really like and you should soon forget all about your friends bf
good luck!!
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Keep away from the first guy, if you hadn't given this guy a oral sex this was more then the rong time to do it, consider this guy a weak ignorant stupid blank that has no true feelings in life, go you're way, and try to find a good respectfull life, this is what makes you're future good. Ask Jesus Christ to come into you're life and guide you, accept him as you're Savior and find peace and glory.
HEALER
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