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I'm afraid to lose mai bestfriend
I am 15 years old and I am from Guam... English is not my first spoken language... But I will try to use proper english in as much ways as I was taught... Okay so one of my bestfriends is a guy and we are jus so close that his friendship means more to me than anything else... The problem is... We've gotten so much closer over the years that we have been friends for... We've been friends for 9 and a half years... I started growing feelings for this guy and his friend says that he feels the same way... I want to go out with him but then I don't want to put a strain on our friendship... I know that usually when people break up their friendship doesn't always survive... And I wouldn't want that to happen... I don't know what to do about this situation... Please help me... Thank you...
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Im going to disagree with those first 2 advisors too. You'll never know what will happen if you two date. If you both really like each other, heres my only major advice: GO FOR IT! Some exes i know are still really good friends but you will never know if you dont give it a shot. Think about this: when your older and single or even dating another guy, you dont want to be sitting there saying "I wonder what would have happened IF i had just dated him" especially if hes with someone else then and you still have feelings for him. Look youre the same age as me, and so I may not have as much experience as those other advisors, but already I've seen the what if factor with some stuff i could have done/did before. You dont want to spend a bunch of your life wondering "what if i had just done this?". Just give it a chance.
o and great job with the english, you speak better than a lot of people actually born here!
Good luck and tell me if this helps!
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Hi!
Im sorry id have to disagree with these other people.. I have been in this position before and we decided to just stay friends and i always think what if we didn't... i hate that feeling of regret and were young and we are supposed to have fun.. i say go for it. if anything else it will make your relationship stronger with him!
hope i helped!
-amnes
mminii13 -aim
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well your are only 15 years old so if date right now you will probably break up... i suggest to stay friends and date other people and then after your more mature and ready for a longterm boyfriend .. you can go to the next step beacuse if you dont you will probably regret it .
hope i helped
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First of all, I would like to thank you for your attempt at correct grammar and such. You did fabulous for English not being your first language. In fact, if you hadn't told me, I wouldn't have guessed it. Congratulations for setting an example for people =].
If you don't want to put any possible strain on the relationship, then you don't have to. It's ALRIGHT to just be friends. I've had to make the same decision about not dating friends over and over again, so I know how you feel. You're only a teenager and you have plenty of time ahead of you to date, so what's the rush to do it now? Being friends is what you know is good- so why not keep it that way?
--Jack
(16/m)
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