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how can I become less shy around guys?
I haven't really had a close guy friend before - I've had boyfriends but I was never their "friend" - if you get what I'm saying. I really want a guy friend that I can just talk to and stuff, but I'm really shy when I'm in public and I never know what to say when I talk to guys. and i don't know how to be myself around them. I know guys want to be around girls who are real, but i am so afriad of blowing my chances at a friendship that i forget to keep it real and i screw things up anyways. How can I keep things real? and how can i become friends with a guy? What kinds of things should I say to guys?
Please answer. thanks =)
- Im a female by the way.
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I use to be the same way... Now I have a tons of guy friends! You just need to honestly be yourself and be CONFIDENT!!! That's the main part...just have fun but don't be slutty because then the guys might think of you the wrong way I stead of a friend... It's always nice to have a good guy friend someone who you can talk to and ask questions to and give you a good hug too!! Haha! You don't need to ask people what to say to make a good guy friend... Say what is in your heart and in your mind! :-)))) hope I helped... You can personally ask me a quesion if you ever want to...
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What I think is going on is that you're worried too much when you're around guys. You said yourself that you are afraid of blowing your chances, but all you're looking for is a friendship correct? It kinda sounds more like you're looking for a relationship which makes you so much more nervous.
Friendships should just come easily, talk about whatever you talk about with your close girl friends. Thats the only way to stay "real". Just don't think of a difference when you're talking to a guy because since you're only looking for a friend, it should be no different than talking to your girlfriends.
I think a way that you can try to keep things "real" and talk to guys without being shy is to talk to them with friends around. You are more likely to stay yourself when you have your friends around you as your comfort zone. Basically, just act like they're your friend already & speak to them like you would speak to your best friend you know? (Well besides the real personal stuff, that may want to wait till you guys are closer =])
I hope my advice made sense to you =]
With Love,
Kori
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