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how not to be shy!!!
well i really really really like this guy alot!!
and him and his gf just broke-up well he knows i like him and everything and he asked me to hangout with him
yay...right?
well the problem is he wants to hang at his house and since im really shy i know i wont know how to act or what to say or anything!!!! i dont know why im shy around him i never get shy!!
or nervous!!!!
so can anyone tell me some like tricks and tips i can do to not be shy around him......and somethings we could do while im at his house would be great!!!!!!!!
or if we should go like to the movies???
any sugestions would be great!
please and thank you
p.s: yea he just broke up with his gf but i saw him yesterday....(he came skatebording down the hill and ran to me and my friend...it went horrible but at least he tried!!!)
and he didnt look broken up about it at all!!!!!
and i kinda dont wanna go to his house only cause my mom wont let me which means ill have to like be sneaky, but i have a gym membership and i can bring a friend but his parents have to drop him off......do you guys think it would be okay to like got to the gym and swim in the pool there???or workout...do you men think its kinda weird???????
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From there:
"First- I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded.
Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.
I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.
Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =]."
As far as what to do, I think swimming would be fine. Why wouldn't it be?
-Laura. (16-f)
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well if it is your guys first date then i would suggest his house. but you said that your mom would not let you. why is that?? if it is because she does not trust you to be in a guys house, then i respect that and so should you and you should show it by not going to his house. if he gets mad about not going to his house, then hes not even worth it because he has to respect that you cannot. however, if she doesnt want you to go because she doesnt want you to have a boyfriend yet, you need to tell her that you are growing up and that youre not a little girl anymore, and that she needs to let you grow up. you should also mention that sooner or later you are going to get a boyfriend and now is the time and she should trust you with your decisions.
if she still does not let you go to his house, then i would suggest going to the gym for swimming. working out on a date is totally wrong so DO NOT do that. you dont want him to see you all sweaty right? swimming is a great idea though because you get to see him without his shirt =D and he gets to see you show some stomach. you both can swim, talk and have fun! movies on the otherhand, is in between. yes you both can enjoy the movie... but you dont get to talk at all and you dont learn anything for each other. however, if you stay after the movie and go eat or meet up before the movie to walk around... then thats another thing.
talk to him about it and see what he thinks. but do not mention working out because that is just too weird.
most importantly.... have fun!!! dont stress out about it too much, just relax and be yourself
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wow you are nervous haha. im sure it will go fine though. first of all the movies are a great idea for a first date, not having to talk much, but this can also be a bad thing, because you won't be talking haha. anyway if you do go for the movies the next time you see him you should do something else. make sure his parents will be home if you are going to his house. sounds like her really likes you! yay! at his house i would just watch a movie, play a board game, play instuments if your into that kindof thing, talk about your likes, play a game where you ask each other questions, take a walk, ride bikes, have lunch, etc. just keep it casual. going to the gym to swim would be fine, if your comfortable with it. to workout? are you talking about working out on a date, because that seems kindof weird to me, i don't know about that. anyways i hope everything goes well, good luck and i hope i helped a bit, :) <3 sara 19
ps. it is always helpful to know your age.!
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