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Why won't he talk to me?
15/f
I'm really good friends with this guy. I love him to death (purely platonic) and he always knows just what to say to make me feel better.
Well lately though, I've noticed that he's been more distant. I'll instant message him, and it will take him twenty minutes to respond when usually he'll always IM me the second I sign online. I'll call him and he'll have to go within five minutes versus usually we'll talk for hours it seems. Same with talking in person.
We are both generally shy and quiet people but when we're together we are close and open with each other...just not so much anymore.
(I'm not being annoying about talking to him by the way. I don't IM or call him constantly every five minutes then wonder why he has to go so quickly. I only try talking to him a few times a week.)
We went to hang out at the beach together a few weeks ago, and the days leading up to that he would talk to me all the time telling me how excited he was. But then after that, nothing.
I worry sometimes that maybe he just thinks I'm too young and silly to hang out with (he's two years older than me). It's so frustrating because I am not immature.
I just don't know why he's acting so distant. I don't want to lose him as a friend, that would crush me.
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he probaly has feelings for you. think about it: you guys went to the beach he saw how good you looked in your bikini/bathing suit and totally fell in love with you. or something close to that anyways. l0l
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I've been in this situation before, also.
It could go either way, so bear with me here.
One way it could go:
He's just going through something. He's either stressed about something or he's having a family issue or a personal issue that he's not ready to open up to you and talk to you about yet. It's nothing against you, he's just not ready yet, and that's okay, it takes time. He'll come to you when he's ready, just let him know you're always going to be here and that you miss him, and see where the conversation goes from there.
The other.. bad way it could go:
He's bored with you. Which to me, would be pretty sad since you two were so close before. Maybe he's found another girl he likes or something, it's hard to tell. Just e-mail him or leave him a voice mail saying you hope you two are still friends and you miss him. If he still is distant and acts like a jerk, he's just being a dumb guy. So, sadly, you'll have to stop attempting to talk to him and just see if he wants to come to you. If he doesn't, sad part is, you'll have to move on, try and forget about him. Which is going to be so hard, I know, but just keep yourself busy.
good luck & hope i helped. let me know. =]
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Hmm. He might be in a confused stage, and it's possible that he might like you. Or he's deciding if he does. He might be scared that it will wreck your old relationship as really good friends that you both had going, and maybe he wants to keep it like that and is afraid that you won't have feelings for him too.
Another possibility is that since he is two years older, which usually doesn't make much of a difference, but he is also at a different stage with his life and therefore, has other things that might take priority which sucks because friendships usually always come first. I say talk it over with him and if he's still acting weird and such, move onto some other friends and hang with them and maybe when he's in a better place, your friendship can be restored to normal.
Sorry if this sounds all confusing-it made sense in my head haha.
Hope this helps!
Crissy; xo
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