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A kid at heart but not a kid
I know that tittle maybe confuseing..
Okay I am 23 years old, I am 4'11 and I have KLIPPEL-FEIL SYNDROME and hard of hearing. you look up that yahoo groups on KFS. I say that to show that i have a disbitie where I look like a kid.. I look like 14 or 16. i don't mind look like a kid and looking young. thing is that alot kids and my cousins they I am a kid and boss me around alot and don't repect me as much, becouse I am small and they almost big as i am. i am very nice and sometimes I let them and I don't stand up for my self to say no and explain that i am not kid I don't do kids stuff. I am adult doing adult stuff. I mean like I do loundery and clean and I babysit. plus I know my writing skill sound like a kid writing. and yet sometimes I do feel like I act like one and sometimes i think I shouldn't act like one show they repect me as who i am. i mean i don't mind playing games and stuff with them. it just where they don't take no for answer or my one cousin like pull on my arms. I don't know how to explain what i am trying to say. here a picture of me at www.myspace.com/flyinshinystar and I think it privite you just see the picture. i just want to know how to explain to them that i am in a adult hood and i know i be a kid once in a while have fun. but sometimes I have to my things not be push around and i know i am a push over i like fix that and i know how to explain my voice sometiems sound like i am talking thour my nose. i don't sound like urkle on family matter lol. maybe hm alittle like girl on zoey 101. girl don't know how do s sounds. it part of my hearing and my speech maybe. anyway hope somone explain for and I am sorry if this sound confusing. i know be few that know how i feel and i know some of you think it cool that you look like kid as adult. but I don't mind really just want some repect.
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I can't say for sure... But I suspect this is more about 'sticking to your guns' rather than KFS or projecting an 'adult' image.
Really... All adults act like kids sometimes. We have immature, emotional outbursts... We can be just as cruel and unfair... And I know plenty of adults that still play with toys... (The only difference is that the toys have become more sophisticated and expensive.) Myself included. And while I could be wrong, I see no reason to worry there.
And you're DEFINITELY not the only adult kids boss around. I work at a department store and one of the areas I supervise is the toy department... On a daily basis I see children bossing around their own parents, getting away with terrible behavior, and being generally manipulative. And I believe that it all boils down to this: they do it because they think they can get away with it.
I say to you, to adults everywhere: stick to your guns. If a kid asks you to do something that you don't want to do, just say 'No.' Say it firmly and with confidence. They may scream, beg, throw a tantrum, say hateful things... But don't cave in. (No matter how badly you want them to stop.) They'll respect you when they figure out that they can't control you.
For example, my fiance and I had to drive out-of-state for a wedding not too long ago. I was driving the bride's car and her 5 year-old daughter, Lee, was sitting in the back seat. The bride was wriding in another car, trying to sleep.
Lee rolled down her window and I caught her sticking her arm outside. I looked in the rear-view mirror, told her that what she was doing was unsafe and asked her to stop. She did... But about five minutes later her arm was out the window again.
I asked her to stop another time and told her that if she did it again I was rolling up her window and locking it. Guess what? Another five minutes... Arm out the window.
I never yelled. I just rolled up the window and locked it, just as I said I would. First she asked me to open the window, saying that she would be good. Then she begged... Then she cried... Then she told me that I was mean and that she hated me. Then she screamed, non-stop for about twenty minutes. At some point I think she threatened to tell her mommy that I was being mean to her... And I responded that she could 'go right ahead' and that _I_ would tell her mommy that she was being a bad girl. Eventually she calmed down and fell asleep. It wasn't the most pleasant half hour of my life... But now if I tell her something, she listens because she knows that when I say 'No' I'm not going to let her have her way.
And if we're talking about childlike strangers... If they're being disrespectful, you don't have to acknowledge them. Do what any other adult would do in the same situation: ignore them. Go about your business and pretend that they aren't there. Let their parents reprimand them... It's not your problem.
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I'm sorry they treat you like that, they obviously have a mean streak. Do not let them boss you around. Tell them something like "No, I'm not going to do that" next time they try to boss you around. If it gets too much, stop playing with them for a while.
I really hope I helped you, and best wishes with your entire situation!
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Respect is taught. You will gain respect as you modify your own behavior to warrant it from others. It does not have anything to do with our looks...there are all sorts of people in this world small and large with varying degrees of abilities and challenges. The story is the same for every person when it comes to gaining respect from others. First you must respect yourself. The world will not be fooled if you don't have inner strength. Read up on the subject in the self-help section of your library. The classic book, BOUNDARIES by Anne Katherine is a good one to start. It is a short book and easy to follow, but will change your life. Bless you on your journey.
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