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Two people in love with a dilema...
I am a separated 35 year old female in love with my 36 year old high school sweetheart, whom is going through a divorce. We had not seen or spoken to each other since September of 2000. In May of this year we finally got in touch only to find that we are still very much in love with each other. We both have children with our spouses and have a long difficult road ahead in closing the chapters in our marriages. We don't know how to "just be friends" and allow each other the space and time to settle our lives. We have tried. No matter what we discuss about not talking or not seeing each other, it's almost unbearable and virtually impossible to stay away. The good thing is that we live about 3 hours away from each other. But that has not managed to keep us apart either. Is there a right or healthy way to do this?
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As they say, If it's meant to be it will happen.
If you two are sure you want to be with each other then maybe it's time to start talking about ways you can make it happen. As of right now I would try your best to remain friends and support him through the divorce until it's finalized. If you two want to be together maybe try a first date and take it from there try talking about ways to make it work, Perhaps finding an apartment/house together. etc
Good luck
BahaiMa22
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So you're still married? And he is too?
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Take a look at that- it's similar to your situation, so I hope you don't mind me just copying my answer from before:
If kids are involved, I would not do this. Kids going through a divorce end up emotionally scarred. It just is never good for the kids unless they were abused by one of the parents or something.
Was the marriage with your husband happy before this guy came back? Like Brandi said, if it was, it really isn't worth it to end your marriage to start another, just because some guy from high school came around doesn't mean you should drop what you already have for him.
But if you're honestly unhappy with your marriage right now, and it has NOTHING to do with this old flame, then I would say go for it. I am pretty much against divorce, but it's not my life, so I can't really hold you to my standards.
--Jack
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