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Is this guy just like every other guy?
This past week I went to a camp and my ex-bf was there also. And over the course of the week I realized that I still liked him. He had already told me about 3 weeks ago that he wanted to get back together with me, but I turned him down because I was still upset with him for dumping me in the first place.
Anyways, now I've told him how I feel and we've decided to get back together. But tonight he was texting me and talking about starting back right where we left off, and suggesting sex too. I told him right then he was moving too fast, but he pulled the whole "you do love me don't you?" to which i said, "i did once until you broke my heart. I'm not just giving it back to you so you can do what you want with it. If you don't want a serious relationship and you just want to mess around then I don't want anything to do with you anymore."
After awhile he texted back saying "I do want a serious relationship. I was just messin' with you. That was just once." Would you say that he truly meant that or just said it cuz he was scared I would leave?
Also, what are some ways we can help to make our relationship exciting but not always so sexual? I want this to work out because I really like him but I want to make sure it is a healthy relationship.
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well im not sure how he meant it but i think to make oyur relationship better just talk about whats on your mind and let him know how you felt in the past and how you feel now.to make things not as sexual i think you should let him answer why he should be the one to get into your pants and dont let him say "because you love me or i love you"tell him you want something meaningful
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It's hard to know for sure, but I would say this boy is very serious, about having sex that is. He dropped you, played the field a bit and determined that you were his best bet for getting sex. No one in his right mind would come out and say let's have sex, right after getting back together with a girl he dropped. I don't believe for one second he was joking and neither do I believe you can trust anything that he says. Everything he does from this point on has but one conclusion in his mind and you know what it is.
I'm sorry you like this guy, but if you want to know for sure, keep your stance solid with him and don't give in, see how long it is before he drops you again.
"Fun things," come when two people are not fixated on one act,(such as having sex). When you do things together, keep them as unromantic as possible and as group related as possible. That is not to say you have to know the group, being out in public is the same as group dating.
Put this guy to the test dear one, don't be naive, keep your eyes open and your hormones in check with this one.
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Maybe this boy was serious, but realized when you freaked a little bit that he really wanted to have a relationship with you but played it off like he's kidding. Just make sure he knows what you want and don't want to do just yet, things will be just fine.
And to have a fun relationship, it doesn't have to be sexual. Group dates, as well as single dates are great ways to spend time together. Do things that you've never tried before. You could go rock climbing, or have a picnic. There's really no limit to the kinds of things out there to do right now so you should have no trouble finding something exciting to do that isn't necessarily sexual.
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