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HUSBAND & EX-INLAWS
My husband of 3 years keeps subjecting me to social gatherings with his ex-inlaws. The latest was over the 4th of July. He said we were going over to some friends house that live nearby, then instead he drove us over to the ex-inlaws house for a party. I am not comfortable being around his ex-wife or her family since she has made it clear she would like to get back together with him. I have also explained my feelings to him in the past and yet he continues to do this to me. I am very hurt and angry. What should I do?
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Well, what works for my husband and I, is that HE doesn't tell me WE are doing anything, and vise versa. WE decide these things together. Sounds like your husband needs to involve you on deciding how you're spending holidays?
As for the ex-in-laws, you need to keep reminding him on how such things make you feel. You're hurt and angry? Tell him that, and exactly why. Don't get all angry and blow up in his face about it. Just calmly explain how you feel about it.
Remind him that those people are nothing to you.
I wouldn't want to spend my holidays with people who are nothing to me...
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You really need to get through to him that his behavious is unacceptable. He may well care a great deal about his ex in-laws but he should not be forcing you to have anything to do with them. Try and sit down with him without losing your cool and tell him that whilst you appreciate his (perhaps misguided) loyalty to them, you are his wife now and he should be listening to how you are feeling. Failing that, write it all down in a letter and make him sit and read it. As for his ex wife, their marriage was a failure and she should not be interfering with yours. Tell her to back off. I hope it goes well with you. Take care.
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