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THis may be complicated.
I live 28 hours away from the person I love. Here is where it is complicated. I've met him once, he has been my pen-pal for almost 2 years now. I "met" him through my friend which is also his friend as well. (they've actually met) I went down this summer and I met him and things went more then great. I would move for him in a heartbeat & i am sure he would too but he cant (literally). Any advice as what to do? I cant stop thinking about him, i know my world would seriously flip upside down if I did not have him. Call me crazy, but i love him. I am not young & stupid. I am 19 and this is not just a toy thing because if this was just a lil dinky stage i was going through i wouldnt waste it on a guy 28 hours away.
SHould I move?
What should I do?
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Two years is a long time to have been a pen pal with someone. I do believe you lovehim and long distance relationships can work but by now something should be working out in your favor if it is going to work. I think you should do more investigating and weigh all the costs before pursuing any drastic action. If you have no ties at home and you want to move make sure you have a job and a place to stay that will be fulfilling to you as well so that you can continue to grow even within the relationship. Please do not just focus on your emotions because love works both ways. You should love yourself just as much and make decisions that will benefit you too. The best love is the kind that helps you and others to grow, not to just rely on your feelings alone. Use your head and your heart to be smart.
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Honestly, true love is something you do not want to pass up. I know this as a FACT. same situation, except we saw eachother in person more times and it went on for years. years that i could have been with him and now it is too late. I would say make sure it is something you really want to do, visit the area first and spend a little more time with him. a plane ticket is expensive but worth it to see your love. If you both are on the same page take that step. good luck. love is a beautiful thing.
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Well you said you literally can't move closer so then moving is out of the question.
Maybe ask him to move then?
Just keep in touch and keep talking and writing and try to see eachother as much as you can.
You might have to wait untill you can move to him or him to you. Because 28hrs is too far to keep driving every week.
Hope it helped
~InsaneChildz~
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