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Im 18 and having "baby fever" is that normal?
Im only 18. I have a full time job, but i still live with my parents. My fiance is going to college next year and im not sure what im going to do. I want to get married and have a baby. We both want them. I want to get married because it feels normal although we both understand that we need to have money, and a house, and good jobs i feel so ready it feels right. I already started thinking about baby names with him and we are completely ready. I know that we could take care of a baby if we had to but at the same time he wants to wait. I understand the consquences but its just i dont want to wait but then again i do. What should i do? Is this normal?
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Personally, I think it is normal. Society tends to believe nowadays that you need a stable job, own your own house and be over 20 to start a family. In my opinion, you are ready if you love your partner and have thought about all the time and money and love you have to give your child and can fulfill all their baby needs. Now, if you were 15 I probably would lean towards the answer that you are not ready. If this isn't just a thought on a whim, and you have put serious thought into it, you probably could handle having a child at this point in your life. And being engaged tells me you have a serious commitment and are willing to raise this baby together for the next 18 years of his/her life. I'd say, if you are both on the same page about starting a family...go for it. If not, wait a few more years and start then. Good luck whatever you end up doing. you may also want to be sure you are living somewhere where it is comfortable to have a baby. Parents are a good help especially with infants, but you may want your privacy and a place to call your own.
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actually.. it is normal. forevery person it comes at differnt times. i had posted pretty much the same question a while ago on here and people told me to be an adult and control my urgers. but im going to say is stay away from that talk, the tv shows, and going in and looking at the new baby stuff or reading up on baby health websites and stuff.. because you both know how bad you want one.. and putting it out of your mind while your busy shouldnt kill the drive to want the family or to buy a house is this terrible economy. actually yesterday i was reading an artcile about development. *apperently* your frontal lobe (part of your brain, does allthe processing, critical thinking ect) is not done being formed till your 25. that is why some people say dont marry till 25 or have babies till 25 (they say your not fully mature...). and although i have a wounderful boyfriend, and a great career already, i too still live with my dad and have more years of school to take on. so i try to put it out of my mind so i dont try to rush it. it seemed like the more my boyfriend was accepting to it and would bring it up himself, the more i wanted it. so we kinda had to stop talking about it so we did not feed off of eachother. i say to try that... it has worked pretty good for me. pregnantless and baby less!
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