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Do I really love him?
Okay. My first boyfriend and I have been going out for a few weeks now. We are both 14. While on the phone one day he told me he loved me. He's told me that a few times already now. The last time I felt guilty so I said "I love you too." But I've been thinking and while I think he's very amazing and I couldn't be happier going out with him, love is a strong emotion and I want to be sure it's love. There's nothing wrong with him or our realtionship I just don't know if I'm ready yet. Do you think it's love and I should tell him I love him?
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I know this response is long, but I think reading it will help answer a few things.
The worst part about a young couple is false love. Although hearing a boy tell a girl, or vice versa, that they are in love with their girlfriend/boyfriend can be rather cute, it can sometimes be mislead. Most of the time when someone falls emotionally for another person, they tend to believe that it is 'love'. This happened to me before with this boy I thought I loved. The thing was, he was a player and told many people he loved them, so when he told me he loved me (me being oblivious to him being a player), I totally believed him.
Turned out that neither of us loved each other, after long nights of grieve over him. Now, though, I am in love and it is THE best feeling in the world. I know it is true because I am no good with relationships, and never go past about 2 weeks before getting bored of my boyfriend. It has been a happy 2 months and I am not bored at all. :)
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If you don't love him just yet, then don't say it. If you feel guilty about not saying it back then you could say "I'd rather not say I love you, unless I really feel it" And I doubt at a few weeks, you feel it yet. Or you could just say you're not ready for y'alls relationship to be that serious just quite yet. Ask him to give you time to start to grow onto him more.
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Hey!
Ahh love. It is a complicted emotion. Most adults dont even know if they're in love or not. You're 14, so you may not have found Mr. Perfect just yet. If it doesn't feel right saying "I love you too" then talk to him about it. If he cares as much to say "I love you", I'm sure he'll be okay with it. If you do feel comfortable saying it, and you think you've met Mr. Right then go ahead and say it but remember, love is just as powerful as hate.
Hope i could help. Good Luck!!
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Well seeing as that your only 14 you can't truly know what true love is. Not even most adults know. Its a strong and tricky emotion love is. Love can be different for everyone really. Some feel it easier the others. Also people have their own ideas of what love is.
But if you don't feel comfortable saying it sit him down and tell him.
Tell him you really care for him and your very happy with him, but your not sure what love is and of you truly feel it.
I belive love is when you care about someone so much that you would be happy just sitting in the same room with the person not doing anything. Just caring for someone so much that you'd do anything to see them happy.
Hope it helped
~InsaneChildz~
15/m
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Hey! Well one thing you should consider is that the faster you speed things up, the ultimate conclusion is that the relationship gets boring faster. It's dependant on the people in the relationship, but if you have to question if you love him then that means you probably don't, when your in love with someone you know it, you feel it.
Maybe you should tell him that you like him alot, enough to want to take it slower so things stay fresh, so you can save that I love you for a very romantic moment.
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Good luck
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