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co-worker driving me insane
This woman I work with is "sort of" my superior (i work for an employee owned company) and I tried being friends with her but do not like her. Everything she does at work is so backwards and the truth is before I went on a one year leave, I had her position and did it 100 times better. (anyone would agree so I am not just being conceited). Lately it has been so bad though that she snaps at work over the slightest thing and freaks out on me and another worker. she talks bad about everyone and is generally unpleasant. I cannot stand going to my job I would normally like because of her. I posted a question about this situation a few months back and mostly heard that I should find a new job. I make twice as much here as I would somewhere else so that is not an option. I have considered asking to move to another crew, but she would find out and really that would NOT be good, also there probably isnt a space for me elsewhere at the moment. Any advice would help, thanks
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Co-workers/friends - 2 different things. Check it out: I have had people at many jobs I have had try to make friends with me, but I tell them up front that I am not here to make friends, so there are no misunderstandings. I am here to get a paycheck only. Reason why is b/c when friends are superiors, things change (unintended), people notice it and it causes funk. Also, because it causes situations as you have now, "I have considered asking to move to another crew, but she would find out and really that would NOT be good" - see what I'm saying.
Outside of work: talk to her. Let her know you understand her frustrations, but you don't understand the reason for the attitude, and let her know that the job is coming in between your friendship and that you are going to take a little time to yourself to sort some things out.
Step away from HER, not the job! don't let anyone come in between your money girl! Next, check to see if any openings are available inside and/or outside of the company, if there are, apply! If there aren't stay, and decide if you would be happier there or elsewhere. If you think you would be happier, else where then start looking. Being that you are already gainfully employed, it's in your hand and you can be selective in regards to the pay.
It's hard to not get to the point of disliking a job b/c of other people, but the bigger picture is that those people put their pants on just like you do which makes them no better than you regardless of the title they hold and no one has the right to snap or disrespect you. So, call it out (professionally), call her off to the side or whoever it is, and let them know that you don't appreciate whatever happened or was said and that you would appreciate it if it doesn't happen again, and DOCUMENT IT! It's not being personal, it's business. Once these matters are addressed you will like your job again. If you feel over looked or taken advantage of with the whole doing a better job than she does deal, then start looking for another job, but know that this type of crap in jobs happen everyday. There is always someone there who deserves the job but has to prove themself 10 times harder to be noticed or awarded for that fact, so it doesn't matter where you go to work, it will happen again. So, I say stick it out, but stand up for yourself and back away from the superior friend. Hell, that last part sounds a work out a little bit huh? LOL
Anyway, good luck girl and I know you will do what's best for you!!
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It sounds like she is snapping because of the pressure. Maybe people tell her that you can do it so much better than she can. The best thing I can tell you is don't find a new job, thats running from the problem, you really should just sit down and talk to her. Ask her if everythings okay, and when your not busy ask her if you can help her a little bit with her workload. Maybe she really needs someone who will help her w/ her job a little bit.
I think in time we have all worked with someone who is unpleasant or are about too, but just do the best you can at your job, you seem really good at it, and next time she snaps at you, just close the door, and ask if she needs help w/ her work, or would like to talk.
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