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shyness
16/f
Hi! Well I hate that I am so shy the first time I meet someone. Whenever I meet someone for the first time I am ridiculously shy especially when its a cute guy, and I don't really know why because once I know the person I am COMPLETE opposite! Its hard for me to approach a guy that I think is cute the first time I see him, like everyone i guess i get nervous, but i'm just tired of that. Many of my friends can just go up to a guy and say 'hi, i'm so and so blah blahh' but i just cant. I guess my problem is like a lot of other girls i'm afraid of rejection and I am self conscious. with the whole self conscious thing the problem is when i want to approach a cute guy, i get intimidated by other girls in the room who i think are better than me and i start to think, why would this guy want to talk/dance with me when he could talk to all these other better girls. and really im not normally this self conscious its just when im around guys im first meeting, thats why i cant figure out why im so shy. please help me find a way to become confident! THANKS!
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i am the sameeee way, my strategy is first give my self a boost of confidence, make yourself believe that you are the hottest thing in that room, even if you really dont think so, go up to that guy and without even thinking say somethin like hey. People you dont know, wont know your self conscious and like you said people you do know you're complete opposite, so you just have to make the people who dont know you think your confident, even if your not the prettiest or outgoing girl its amazing what you can make people think by just acting like you have a little confidence, maybe say somethin to lighten things up sometimes ill just say somethin really dumb ( that i know is kind of silly) so they can get a laugh at me and ill not be as nervous i know that sounds weird but it really helps. Dont over think it before you go and talk to someone, then youll over analyze what they will think
hope i helped
leanna<3
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Confidence cannot be taught, but it can be learned. A self-concious thing is really a hard thing to get over, but it can be. One step is optimism. You have to avoid any thoughts that lead to negativity about yourself. I'm not saying that when you see a pretty girl, you think,"I'm so prettier than her..." I'm saying you think, "she's pretty" and not let it bother you.
Shyness can really be overcome through exposure to what your shy about. Its like stage fright. You are afraid to be infront of people and be you, but when you do, you notice your good at it, enjoy it, and want to do it again...
If that's a bad analogy. Consider this, its like the first time you ever ride a rollercoaster. Your scared out of your mind and you want out fast. But you have to fight that fear and get through it or you'll miss out on a lot.
You can do it, even when you think you can't or get scared, you have to say, "get through this" and do it. I know you can.
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Well I can't really help much with being shy, that's gotta come from you. Just think about it before you're about to meet someone and purposely be a little bit more outgoing.
Or, if you want the guys you meet to see that you're fun once they get to know you, try talking to other people that you already know while the guys are in the room. That way they get to see how you act when you're comfortable.
However, about being confident...I have this same problem when I'm meeting new guys. Out of my best friends that I'm usually in these social situations with theres four of us and one of them I think is super pretty and she's got the perfect body and everything and I always feel like if guys would talk to me then it would be like their plan B. So whenever I'm going out and I know I might be meeting cute guys...I wear a really cute outfit and make sure my hair and make-up are perfect so I feel good about the way that I look. I feel better when I'm in better clothes and when I know I look my best. And it actually makes me more outgoing when I feel good about myself. And when you feel confident, you're gonna look confident which will definately draw more guys to you.
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