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I never expect her to still be flirting with me after i told
When i first met her i began to have butterflies every time i saw her. when we first tease each other and played around my feelings began to grow. when she kept leaning on me i couldnt stop thinking about her. when she gave me pet names i began to blush. she is my frist girl crush. but i couldnt take the confusion anymore. i told her my feelings and she said that she is unsure of her sexuality and not ready for a relationship. i never ask her out but told her that i am bi and i like her. then when i met some guy at a party she got jealous. she said "i dont know if i should be pissed or happy for you" "time will tell for the both of us" i was confused. i ask her if she like me and she ignore the note. i ask again up front she ingore the question, but shook her head no. 2 weeks ago i ask her again in a text and she said "not as of now sorry i see you as a sister" i want to move on becuase she still flirts and confuses me. i dont know what to do.
The reason why i ask her if she like me was because she flirts with me sometimes. the 1st time i ask her that question was last year. then 2 weeks ago this year i ask again. and when she said she was jealous she even said that she was jealous of my last two boyfriends. i want to move on because i dont want to fall for a best friend. i know her for 7 years. and we are both bi curious (she told me she is). we are 21.
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I kind of see things differently:
Because someone is confused about their sexuality, doesn't give them the right to play with someone's feelings or interest in them especially if that person has told them that they like them. You feel me? Hell,either she is bi-curious and interested or she's not. It's no reason to flirt around with you, lead you on or even send mixed emotions. You are 21 years old and you are grown now, you played mattel games as a child, right?
If you want to move on, do it- especially if you see that it's going to go nowhere with her. Seriously. Anyway, talk to her one more time(not even asking if she likes you and all that because you shouldn't have to chase or sweat anybody, regardless of how you feel about them)- let her know that you would like for her to stop flirting, and sharing her jealousy with you if she isn't going to act on it - because it's simply playing silly games and you are too old for it. Tell her you all can still be cool and that you aren't mad at her, you just need to gain some clarity for yourself so that you can move on and so that you both are on the same page.
Falling for a best friend is OK, good and cool, the problem is when that best friend isn't there to catch you when you fall! Tell her you are straight up and like straight up comments - all that "time will tell mess" isn't direct and gives no direction either so I can understand why you were confused. I would be too. On your behalf, it isn't fair to be confused due to someone else verses being confused by your self. OK?
Good Luck girl, be happy and I hope you get whatever it is that you want to make you happy and keep you happy but most importantly aware!
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It kind of sounds like she is just confused about her sexuality and really doesn't know where she stands with you. She may just be curious about interactions with other girls and wants to try it but is nervous.
She may be jealous because she is used to getting alot of your attention and she doesn't like it being focused on other people. I think that the best bet is for you to just give her sometime to figure things out, move on. Get a boy/girlfriend and have some fun with that, and maybe after a while she will figure out her sexual orientation and you guys can decide what you want to do.
Hope I helped.
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