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help!
about 2 weeks ago this guys fingered me im 15 and now iv missed a period nearly 2 im really worried he might of had cum on his hands or it came through his trousers or something i dont know i just keep feeling sick. Im to scarred to get a pregnancy test because if i was to be pregnant i wouldnt no what to do with myself!
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I really don't think you are pregnant.
If he had sperm on his fingers it
could happen but would be rare. It
is not unusual for teens to miss a
period. Fear and worry can also make
you miss one.
Here is a website that it would do you
good to look over. It has lots of
information on sex, birth control and
pregnancy and its symptoms.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
If being sexually active is going to
cause you this much worry, you may
not be ready for it yet. It is a very
big step with some very big risks.
Don't even allow fingering without
him having a condom on. It will make
you less worried afterward and if he
cares he will not mind. :)
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I understand your concern; however, a pregnancy test may be the wisest choice if you suspect semen had contact with your vagina.
Before I go on to help you figure out what sort of pregnancy test to get, I'd like to point out that even fingering can be very dangerous to your health. You see, things like HPV and herpes can live in the nailbed of the fingers. This being said, you can easily contract them from being fingered, especially so if the person has unwashed hands (and didn't nailbrush their fingers).
So, you should be concerned over the transmission of a possible STD as well.
Next, you should know that when you engage in any sexual activity you need to be aware of the consequences. If you are pregnant it was no surprise, right? You know that sperm entering your vagina may cause a pregnancy. What has been done is done and not taking a pregnancy test is more harmful than taking one and finding out you're pregnant.
See, having a child at a young age can do a lot of harm to the body. Your body gets depleted of vital nutrients that you get, which is why it's super important to always take a prenatal vitamin. The prenatal vitamin helps your body to get enough nutrients that the baby needs as well, which will lower your chances of stunted growth and osteoporosis (thinning bones) later in life. The sooner you find out you're pregnant, the sooner you can begin taking the vitamins--and the healthier you're going to be in the long run.
Now, there wasn't any surprise that you were risking a pregnancy with this activity, obviously, but you should learn from your mistake. Next time, maybe you and your partner can engage in other fun activities without risking the health of your body. You know you're way too young to be able to take care of a child properly so please don't try to put yourself through that mess.
Now, where pregnancy tests come in is a little more tricky.
Home pregnancy tests are not really 100% accurate. There are lots of false-negatives. Home pregnancy tests can show a false-negative while you are pregnant even. I know a girl that was "negative" during her ENTIRE pregnancy! Also, just for future information, there is no such thing as a false-positive, so if you ever take a test and it says you are pregnant then you definately are.
Some home pregnancy tests are better than others. According to a couple of studies done, First Response and Early Result Pregnancy Test are the two best kinds to purchase because they are slightly more sensitive than the others.
At the doctor's appointment they will do a pregnancy test for you and it will show the true answer to your issue. Some clinics will do the pregnancy test free if you cannot afford such a thing so you may want to check around. The test will include blood being drawn, most likely.
If you are pregnant, there are lots of options open to you. I do not suggest abortion since it can really do major, major damage to a woman's body; however, adoption is always a good choice. Sometimes friends of the family (or family members) end up adopting the child. Sometimes you can even choose who adopts your baby from an adoption agency.
You can always keep the baby as well and attend teenage-parental classes that are now being offered nationwide. Your parents, no matter how upset they may be at first, would probably help you get on your feet in the beginning. Yes, it would be a very difficult struggle but some women make it through life this way.
So, in short, I suggest you purchase one of the home pregnancy tests I listed above AND make a doctor's appointment to get one done if it shows up negative and your period is still late. Sometimes stress can cause periods to be off a little so relax and take a home test first and then wait a few days.
I also want to note that you are worth more than this. You do not have to have sexual encounters to be loved. You're putting yourself through so much stress and in such dangerous situations, I just want you to know that you deserve better. You shouldn't do this to yourself because you are somebody special and there will never be another person like you. This being said, please be cautious so you can be the best you possible.
I hope I've helped you figure out how to handle your situation properly. Please feel free to ask me any more questions if you'd like :)
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