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I fancy...my cousin...
I'm 14, my cousin is 19.
I fancy my cousin, and he fancies me back. But we live at opposite sides of the world, which is the only thing that is stopping us from having sex.
We have cyber sex with each other almost every day. And I have no idea where this is leading me. I'm visiting them coming December...
If you were in this situation, what would you do?
Please help...!
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ok first off that is so gross hun you cant do that you will get a terrible rep my advice dont go see them and if you do dont be alone with him k not a good thing sorry if i was to harsh but hey thats me
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This situation is a little taboo in some areas, not so much in others... depending on which, and depending on your family, you should probably have some sort of discussion with your cousin about what to do. Do you plan on telling your family? Do you want to have sex with him, or are you considering some kind of relationship?
It can be okay to have a casual internet sex relationship with someone as long as you don't actually have feelings for them. You should probably ask yourself (and your cousin) honestly how you feel about each other before you do anything else.
If you both want to keep it casual, you should best hide what you have from family (especially if they would not approve). Them finding out would complicate the situation. As well, sleeping with him in this case would not be a good idea, as you are after all there on a family trip, and on the off chance anyone found out the whole thing would go from a little uncomfortable to hugely awkward in short amounts of time.
If you want a relationship, the visit would be a good time to tell family that you are interested in each other. Liking one's cousin is, in fact not that unusual, legal, and makes some sense as you have probably not grown up together. Once again, family finding out about the sex is always a possibility, so I would suggest against it. However if you DO end up there, make sure that you above all use protection - condoms, vaginal contraceptive film, ect.
Whatever happens, make sure that you have thought about it and discussed everything with him so you both know what you want out of the cyber sex/ relationship. The fact that you are family may make things more complicated, but that doesn't mean that things won't work out.
Good luck =]
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It would be illegal in many places for a fourteen year-old to have a sexual encounter with a nineteen year-old.
It would be a bad idea, for anyone of any age, to sleep with someone who lives on the opposite side of the world just because they were around for a short visit. It would be monumentally stupid for a virgin to do so.
This guy can’t be there for you, or support you after you having sex with him, and sex makes you vulnerable, emotionally and physically vulnerable. You need someone you can take care of, and someone who can take of you. Someone who is around for a little while can’t do that. They can’t provide you with a comfortable teenage sexual experience if they are going to pick up and leave you with all your unfinished feelings and worries.
Don’t sleep with him. It’s a bad idea, and you already know that. If you didn’t already know it was a bad idea, you wouldn’t be asking us.
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