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friend & boyfriend
My friend, K, has a boyfriend, J, all of us [like our whole group] hate him. If he's making fun of us she'll tell him to stop, he will, but only for like 20 minutes. She really likes him. But hes sooo mean! He makes fun of me like 24/7. Honestly, this is kind of bitchy but, i've got the prettiest face, but i don't have a boobs of a butt. They do. Thats why they get all the guys. It's annoying. It's seriously getting to the point where i'd rather be alone all summer than have to go somewhere where J is going to be. K, i don't know. Were becoming closer and stuff, but this is ruining our friendship. I can't do anything without hearing some comeback from J or any other guys. ANd then if i sit there and be quiet, then they make fun of me for being 'shy' but i'm not. I hate this. I have small boobs, they have big boobs. THey like my friends better than me. But, thats only ucz my friends let everyone have it. LIke, S, she lets guys do anything with her. BUt then she crys when everyone finds out and ppl stop likeing her. SHE BRINGS IT ON HERSELF!
what can i do?
I'm so close to just telling k that i can't hang out with her if shes with j.
should i?
any advice is helpful.
oh, and am i wrong to be mad?
am i overreacting?
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No, You are NOT over reacting at all and yes you have the right to be mad, and TIRED especially.
Your friendship is with K, not J so why is it a necessity to hang with J also? Tell K that you have nothing against her and that you prefer not to be around J, and that you aren't going to be around J period. Tell her that your friendship with her is your friendship with her and that you and her will talk, or hang when time allows her to hang with you instead of U and J? If she is really your friend she will accept and understand this.
If they are only getting guys b/c of boobs and butts then you don't want any of those guys anyway b/c we know what they are after and what they want so stand above that and do not lower yourself to fit in. If the ones you hang with are permiscious (sexually active with whoever and whatever), then please re-evaluate who you hang with if you are different. What would you have in common with girls who do it with anyone? The prettiest face means NOTHING, who has the prettiest inside? Now, that's what counts - people who notice outter beauty only will not notice, accept OR UNDERSTAND inner beauty. you feel me?
I don't know how K is, but if she too is like that, you may want to re-evaluate your friendship with her too. Also, rumors are vicious but when it isn't a rumor based on truth and not hear say it's more vicious. If someone doesn't want their business out there or talked about then don't do it or put it out there. remember that.
I have an associate that I don't talk to or see as much b/c her boyfriend is childish, abusive, and immature and I don't like being around him, as I have nothing in common with him, I told her that I wouldn't be around her if he is there and I don't - that's simple- she respects and understands it, so now we are no longer friends, but we are only associates now - she chose to hang with him all the time, and hang or talk to me whenever he isn't around - if this is something you are willing to accept based on your decision to demand respect for yourself so be it! Also, those who stand for nothing, fall for anything. Be happy, respectful, and love who you are as a person let NO ONE put you down or cause you to feel bad about what you have or don't have physically or materialistic. If the other people in the group like being teased, called out or made the joke of the group, then that's on them - doesn't mean you have to!
good luck
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