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help please.
okay. so heres the deal. for the past couple of years, my brother has just been going "down hill". About 2 years ago, my sister was visting and she found pot in my brothers room. He was punished for a while about it and then it was droped, well, i never believed that he had stopped even though he said that he did. So when he was gone i would go in his room, and find pot laying on the floor. He wasnt even trying to hide it anymore. Well i showed it to my dad and basically didnt do anything and everytime something is found he still doesnt. A couple of weaks ago i found some bottles of cough syrup and cough medicine that was all gone. He had been skipping school, quit his job and everything. Now my dad pays for his gas, and anything else he needs, where as i have to buy everything for myself. Up until yesterday, i would go in there and look for things, basically to try and get him in trouble and prove that he hasnt quit, and because im worried about him. Well yesterday, i went into his room, and underneath his chair i found paper bags and air freshener can, so i think he may be "huffing". But then i looked over and saw a notebook, I read some of what he had wrote, saying about the first time he used pot, and then he asked a girl out, they went out for like a week, and she broke up w/ him for no reason, he was crushed, and never told any of us. Thats when i read that he had started also using cocaine, stealing from my parents, his friends, the school, etc. I am scared for him and his life, he wants to do great things, and i dont want him to ruin his life. I havent told my parents, ill prob. tell my mom tonight, even though she cant do anything, because he doesnt live with her, but my dad, i just dont want him to seem like he doesnt care. please. someone. tell me what i should do. i love my brother, and im afraid that hes gonna end up dead.
sry that its so long.
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confront your brother, but try and just have a heart to heart, dont lecture him.. even if you have to make up a problem so that he can relate to you maybee..then he'll open up.. sounds to me like hes keeping feelings inside and his actions are begging for attention.. by your dad punishing him but then dropping it.. letting him quit his job and what not.. then paying for his gas, stuff like that just isnt going to help your brother learn or realize any type of responsibility.. hes just gunna think.. "shoot dad doesnt care after awhile" type thing..
whatever you do DONT tell him you found that stuff or his journal.. and if the heart to heart doesnt work, and he doesnt let his guard down to clue you in about some of this stuff.. then take the journal.. and any drugs you find and keep it, to show your dad..
but you need to sit down and tell your dad, that hes gotta help your brother out because hes gunna end up all messed up. more than he already is.
i dont doubt your brother has great potential.. and i only hope that he gets through this and it all works out.
good luck girl, let me know how it goes.
take care, and any help feel free to ask away (:
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You should definetly tell someone other than your father. If you find any pot or cocaine in his room take it away. Try to support him like asking how his day went and if there is anything he wants to talk about. Talk to the guidance consueler at his school. Tell the conseuler wants going on but to leave you anonymous, and talk to him. I hope he gets better soon. =)
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