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my boyfriend treats me like dirt

Question Posted Saturday June 14 2008, 1:41 pm

My boyfriend is constantly putting me down, saying that I am fat, and stupid, and he calls me names all the time like b*tch and c*nt. This makes me cry all of the time. And when he sees me crying, he calls me a baby and says I need to grow up. He says he cares about me, but caring means that you help me feel better when I am upset, instead of yelling at me like he does. I can't leave him because we have a 1 yr old son together and plus, if I did leave, I have no where to go, and I can't afford anything. I want to kill myself, but I won't because of my son. Does anyone have any advice for me?

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karenR answered Sunday June 15 2008, 3:39 pm:
Having a child together is not a good
reason to put up with abuse. How long
before he starts calling him names and
abusing him too?

There is help out there.

If violence is a concern, you should
consider staying at a local domestic
violence shelter until you can find
somewhere else to live. Domestic
violence shelters can provide a safe
place to stay, as well as legal assistance, financial assistance, counseling,
help finding a job, and help relocating.

Here is a number that may help you with
what to do. The National Domestic Violence
Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.

Keep in mind that abuse doesn't have to
leave bruises. Emotional abuse is just
as bad and leaves you feeling like you do
now. Depressed and feeling you have to stay.
You don't. Call the number above and if
they can't help, they can sure tell you
who can. Good luck. :)

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advicegal26 answered Sunday June 15 2008, 2:10 am:
i agree with the other chick- for your son. that he will do it to him too and it's not a good environment for him to be in especially when he puts you down, your son is young but it will affect him in some way. but also, you deserve better! there is NO reason for you to be treated like shit. you could possibly find a job that may allow you to have your son either with/near you or babysitter or something. i know that if you want to get out of that situation, you can. what about your parents? i dont know everything but theres always possibilities. i just know that you will be better off without his opinion because you do NOT deserve to be treated that way. it should not matter how he or any other man sees you but how you see yourself, love yourself and your baby. best of luck in this tough situation.

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lucinders answered Saturday June 14 2008, 5:13 pm:
i know you said you can't leave but you have to! for your son if not for yourself! it's not good for your son to grow up in an environment which is unloving. if your boyfriend treats you likethat theres nothing to say he won't treat your son like that.

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