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Im not sure how i feel about him or what to do
Ok so there was this guy that for the longest time i thought was really hot and we finally ended up talking the other day, and then he proceeded in asking me out on a date. The date went fine we held hands and stuff but didnt kiss. the only thing was i felt really confortable areound him and im not sure if that means im just confortable around him or if i just like him as a friend. Cause shouldnt i be nervous? (Im not sure cause ive never been on a one on one date haha) Anyways so now hes talking to me alot adn i feel like he likes me alot more then i like him, i want to tell him im not sure how i feel about him so that im not leading him on, but i want to continue to be friends with him and go out sometiimes...what should i do? and can anyone help me on weather or not i like him or not? Thank and sorry about the length
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I don't think that being nervous has anything to do with like or dislike. It's based on personality and maybe your personality is full of confidence like internally thinking "I got this".
I remember my first date and I wasn't nervous at all, I was comfortable as well. Before liking someone for more than a friend, it is best to like them as a friend first, in order to become more comfortable. I commend you for the fact that this is your first one on one date and you maintained that confidence and respect by not kissing just yet.
It is possible that he likes you more than you like him and I feel that this is the most important factor to focus on. Tell him, that you are somewhat confused about where this is going and where you want it to go at this time of your life and that you want to remain friends, and see him occassionally to figure out your emotions and what you want out of this friendship, ask him to do the same, so that you guys are on the same page of developing a better solid friendship before a relationship.. hope this helps
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If you feel comfortable around him, then you like him. If you're around somebody and you feel nervous, then you're not sure whether or not this guy/girl is the right person for you, either because of their personality or what they do in their lives.
How you view him is up to you. You're worrying yourself as to how you view him, and that will just just get you even more confused than before about how you really feel about him.
Do you have butterflies in your stomach whenever you hear him name or see him? Or do you think about him and have this 'desire' to be with him? To either one, if the answer is 'yes', then you really like him, if it's 'no', then you like him, but only as a friend.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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okay there is two very good answers to your question and it is up to you to decide which one fits you.
.. one one hand you can be comfortable around him because he makes you feel safe and cared for. this is perfectly normal and you can still have feelings for him.
.. on the other hand you could possibly just think of him as a friend.
Talk to him, tell him that you could definatly see yourself developing feelings for him but you would really like to take things slow. go on a date with him and try to figure out if you have genuine feelings for him. when it comes time for the kiss, if you feel something, thats wonderful! if not you have to tell him, you dont want to lead him on. if it comes to this, tell him that hes a great guy but your getting more of the friend vibe.
I hope this helps you a little :)
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