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I shouldnt look into it as much right?
“Make new friends, go on dates, don’t see/speak to them as often as you do and it will take time” How many times you heard that when you are trying to get over some one? Is there a best way to get over some one? Is there a faster and easy not to hurtful thing to do! To move on from the so called perfect one! My answer NO unless you met your soul mate, Like that will happen out of the freaking blue! I been in love with my friend for 7 years, I told her my feelings but she doesn’t feel the same. We see each other when we have time; she is close to me and caring and thoughtful. She doesn’t want a relationship neither does me with her, but for some way I just want to be with her even you I am sexual confused too. I guess we are both bi curious but I just don’t want her to be my first. She told me that she is sexual confused herself. I thought if I tell her my feelings I will move on but I didn’t, I ask her if she likes me more than a friend…
But her answer is “not as of now sorry I like you as a sister” what the hell is “not as of now” Mean?! (Just wait and see!!!!!!!!) How can I walk away from that?!?!?!
bisexual female
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Like you said, she's still sexual confused, so maybe she did have feelings, but is scared that she may become bisexual. My guess is that when she learnt of what you felt for her, she was afriad of what she was getting herself into and wanted nothing to do with it. She may also doesn't want o you to be her first either.
Telling somebody your feelings doesn't help you to move on at all. In fact, it's the opposite. You're accepting the feelings which you've got for that person, so you want to be with them even more.
When she said "not as of now", she meant that she did think of you more than a friend, but learning of your feelings made her scared, so she's begining to set boundaries for herself as to what she feels for a certain person. Most unfortunatly, she has decided that she can no longer think of you as anything more than a sister/friend, which I can understand becasue when you're sexually confused, you need to sort out as to who you are and focused as to what you want to be in life and she doesn't want to make that decision now. I don't know how old you are, but I'm guessing that you're still in school.
Have you found your 'soul mate'? I don't think that you have because soul mates tend to have the same level of feelings they've got for each other and have the same amount of passion for the realtionship. In this, you've got two people who're not sure of what sexuality they are, one likes the other, but the other doesn't. True, you may've had feelings for her for 7 years, but she may or may not have felt the same for you, that isn't what soul mates are all about.
There isn't an easy way to walk away from somebody whom you love, it never is. It may look good on a page, but I know that in real life, it's alot more difficult because I've had a similar experiance and I had to walk away and it was hard. Even to this day, I still have the same feelings for this one person like as if nothing happened (and it's been over a year!). But the most painful thing for me is that I knew that it wouldn't work out, and that hurts because you love this person, but you know deep down that it can't work (personal reasons) and I view this person and my 'soul mate'.
When you've had that said to you, I would go and talk to this girl and ask as to what she meant by it, I wouldn't be surprised if you find out that she did have feelings for you.
Just a quick note: your question was very confusing, were you asking about how to move on or what does "not as of now, sorry I like you as a sister"? Please try and make it less complicated. I've tried to answer all of you questions, but remember for future reference, please single out one question at a time and ask them in seperate questions, time consuming it may be but it makes our lives so much easier.
I hope this helped,
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