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Okay so im 16 female and im having friend problems. Im friends with these 2 girls and im closer with one of them, and they are best friends. Well they were in a fight and i thought being a good friend i would side with both of them so when one talked about the other i would agree and when the other talked about the other i would agree as well; which was obv. a mistake and a regret. Well now they are friends again and they called me yelling at me for lying and sending the other person things like they are a bitch or whatever. So they both just called me blaming me for everything under the sun and i said its all my fault and i apoligized and said im happy they are still friends and we ended aggrivated with eachother one more than the other but not extremely mad. They said they cant trust me and im know for being a trustworthy friend. I dont no what to do ... should i be friends with them... how do i approach them im having a party for my birthday next weekend and they are both invited and now im scared
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Thats a tough situation. I have been through the same thing except my friend was taking sides. When I found that out, I was so mad at her because I trusted her and thought she was on my side. I would be mad too if I were your friends. But they should forgive you. Maybe give them some time and don't bug them alot. You should invite them both to your party and just apologize and ask if they would like to come to your party. If they don't forgive you, its not your fault. You did apologize and thats all you can do. So I hope everything works out for you.
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Thank you for the question.
I understand how frustrated you must be feeling. You were only trying to be a good friend and please them both. Although you didn't exactly go the right way about it (which you now know), your intentions were still good.
It's hard being stuck in the middle, isn't it?
If I were in your position right now, I'd write them both a letter ( or email etc) apologizing and explaining your reasons for doing what you did. Explain you didn't want to lose either of them as a friend so you thought it would just be best if you agreed.
Make it clear it will never happen again because you value their friendship and say you still want them to go to your party, to make amends.
Within time, things should go back to normal, if they were your true friends, anyway. People do make mistakes and this is a common one people make within friendship groups.
Don't be scared. Just try to patch things up with them. On the other hand, if they aren't having any of it and don't accept what you have to say, only then should you think about moving on.
Best of luck.
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