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What can I do about my brother. Drugs What to do?
Pretty much, I'm 15, my brother is 16, he is about 15 months older than me. Recently, last summer or so, we got close, and hung out with each other everyday. I smoked cigarettes for about 2 years by that time & weed for a year, and he had just started smoking weed. I was OK with that. It's just weed. I talked to him told him that I don't want him doing anything else, My mother also. Not too long after, I came to discover, him experimenting with other things, prescriptions pills. soon he did coke for the first time. I was telling myself, whatever everyone experiments, I had and I didn't do anything else afterwards, I was hoping it would be that way for him. Well, soon he started doing pills more regularly, I tried talking to him.. He was just like oh I won't get addicted I promise. Now, It's gotten to where he won't listen to ANYONE. Me, my mom, his friends, and more of our family has talked to him. All he thinks about is getting high, how is he getting money, what is he doing next. Basically, he has stopped going to school except for, 2 times a week, my mother is out of options and I am too. My father loves both of us so much and we are all at a loss in this because we are losing my brother and he is too naive to realize it.
What should I or we do?
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You are right, something has to be done and soon. Drugs are very addictive, regardless of will power, and soon nothing matters but the drugs or how to go about getting them. I completely know about every drug one could try and it's not fun once the after affect has hit and you've lost everything and everyone!
I know you love your brother and very much at that to post this question on his behalf. People don't change habits or ways because someone has made them do it. People change as a result of doing some self evaluation and determining that they need help. They first must admit that they have a problem. If he isn't willing to do that, then there is honestly nothing that you or your family can do accept support him as he hits rock bottom OR your parents could admit him into a drug treatment center, because of his age. He isn't considered as an adult yet and if he demands to continue acting like one, he should be given the opportunity to become an adult 100%, which means he moves out, takes care of himself, and sees what life is really about. "The hard way". Some people really have to fall and burst their butts before opening their eyes to vision what's really going on.
If he's admitted into a center, they will treat him for the drug problem and provide additional support because of the emotional and psychological effects he will go through from not being able to get the drug.
If he is experimenting with different types of drugs - an evaluation of how he is getting the money needs to be considered. Is the money being given to him or is he working for it? If he is being given the money, then whoever is giving it needs to cut it off, and give him no money. If he is working for it, and refuses to cooperate with getting help, he needs to be kicked out of the house to run his race until he sees for himself that it is not worth it. Another thought that concerns me is this - what type of people does he hang around with? I don't believe in picking my children's friends because my kids are 16,15,and 12. They must make decisions for themselves but I will guide, and be there while those decisions are being made. If my children are hanging with other peers who are into drugs, sex, disrespectful things, selling drugs, stealing any of that, then they know they aren't welcomed to my house nor can they call my house, nor can my children hang with them with my knowledge of it anyway.
The fact of him NOT talking about it or listening to what people are saying to him somewhat makes me think that he isn't going to willingly agree to go to the drug treatment program either. Upon that being determined, your parents will have to step their game up and put their foot down. He is not grown and shouldn't have the right to NOT go to school.
Your parents could get in trouble for that legally, and if authorities find out that he is on drugs, they could also remove him from the home, and attempt to prove your parents unfit. I know that's how the law is here in KY. seriously. Once those people get all up in your family business, it's hell to get them out of it.
Your parents could also contact the court system in your state, advise that he is unruly even without violence- it's the fact of skipping school and doing drugs- he will get a court date, and have to go before the judge. The judge will then court order him to attend these drug classes or get locked up in the juvenile system. At this point, it is going to take TOUGH love since Sincere Love isn't working. Catch it and stop it NOW, before it escalates into something much worst. (which is him falling down and bringing his family down with him).
I encourage you to stay off of drugs, and do not experiment with them anymore, please. Stay in school, stay focused and concentrate on your future. I am very proud of you for realizing that your brother has a problem and needs help and I respect you for asking for help to get that assistance needed for him.
Good Luck, dear heart and stay strong! I am praying for your and your family that he over comes this hold on his life and that your family becomes stronger and prospers.
Take Care!
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