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Narcissistic...
16/f. I love looking at myself in the mirror. And it's weird..because I'm not cocky and I'm not confident. But I'm like...self obsessed I guess. I spend about 30 minutes in front of a mirror before school. Everything has to be perfect. Sometimes, I'll just stand there and observe my features...and admire them. I also take a LOT of pictures of myself. SO many that there's not enought memory in my computer to store them all! And it's funny as well...because I've never had this problem before. Going through middle and elementary school, I could care less what I looked like. And in middle school and early high school, I had really bad acne problems and so I kept my face hidden from half the people half the time. Now, however, since I got a boyfriend this year and since I lost weight and began looking "prettier" I look at myself too much. I'm afraid this will develop into a serious narcissistic problem. It might already be. And it's interfering with my schoolwork...even though school's over - because I spend more time looking at myself in the mirror and fixing my hair and face...than actually taking notes in class! I don't know what to do. My face is beginning to clear up more (I'm on Accutane) yet ..what if the problem gets worse when my face is near flawless? I'm not conceited AT ALL. I don't come off that way. I just never had the confidence..and now it kinda shows..and I actually like myself for once. How can I manage this? Keep it normal? ...Ahhh.
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i went through the same thing about 2 years ago. i finally started realizing i was pretty and i wanted to look at myself all the time, i always had mirrors out in school and would even look in window reflections to see how my hair and face looked. but guess what? this will pass, and it can actually be great because you are developing confidence. youre admiring your features instead of putting them down, which is good. BUT, on the other hand, obsessing over flaws and trying to make sure everything is perfect isnt healthy. its great to look in the mirror and like what you see, dont let that go away, but what you have to do is gradually stop looking in the mirror as much, and just every day stop yourself from the over-obsessing. being comfortable with yourself and confident at the same time is the best thing in the world. once i got over my worrying, i felt so much better. now, i feel beautiful all the time and know that nothing can ever be perfect. you dont have to be flawless to be beautiful, it comes from within. just love yourself as a person and realize looks are not the most important thing, and every day keep busy and focus on more important things, and eventually youll be confident but without the obsession. hope i helped!
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Umm your really not doing anythng wrongg! 85%+ girls go through this aha. You just need to put the mirrord down once in a while. Its good that your confidence has gone up now.
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i think its grea that you feel better about yourself now... and theres nothing wrong with looking in a mirror... my friend does it everytime she can... but if you think its turning into a problem... tell your friends to take your mirrors away everytime you look in it! friends are there to help! use them!!!!!
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hun, at this point its pretty much all about the self control. you obviously need to stop this problem NOW before it grows into something even worse, so you should keep reminding yourself of this fact anytime you want to look in the mirror.
everytime you want to look in the mirror, just keep thinking of the fact that its becoming a problem, and just dont let yourself look at it. instead just get away from the mirror and do something else to distract yourself completely and try not to even think about it. get rid of the mirrors in your purse and room, and only look at the bathroom mirror for like 2 mins or so before school, not more than 10 or 15 minutes!
keep reminding yourself that you need to do this because its getting out of control everytime you want to look at yourself.
its normal for a girl to want to see herself in the mirror to make herself feel really pretty and good, but make sure you dont do it too much.
hope i helped =)
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