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friend being very messed up.
13/f
theres this friend that i have. she is like a sister to me, but lately shes been acting very...messed up. for example ill tell her that im going to coney island whatever and she'll start talking about how shes got a boy friend, got new nikes, going to six flags, etc. so im like okay...cool? nd then shes like y did you tell me that? and then im like,...cuz i wanna. nd then she'll be like, well i dont care. nd then ill say whats up with you and she'll be like you shoved something in my face so im shoving sonething bak. i didnt really mean for it 4 seem like that, but yea. ill tell her that and shes like true. then she'll be like you never invite me anywhere. and of course i do, i just dont go places much, so i tell her that. shell be like ok, true, im happy 4 ya. so yes, ill be very pissed by then. i dont know, she has done so many hurtful things to her, and me? like one or two mistakes. but her "gurtful things" arent mistakes, its the way she actually is. so im very confused and mad and hurt, its just a mixture of feelings. i know i luv her very much(as a friend) but i just dont feel like her friend anymore. i dont know what im asking, but i hope you'll be able to know. i guess im asking what i should do. so yea, any advice would be highly appreciated. thankx!
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I have a friend exactly like that! The thing is, she is jealous of ya girl. She feels like she has to counter comment everything you say just so you pay attention to you. Jealousy is bad in a friendship. Very bad. For example, my friend got so jealous, she would call me everyday and almost force me to do EVERYTHING with her, so I wouldn't be with other friends. ANd even THEN she would say we didn't spend as much time together!!! I got sick of it. I spend less time with her, much less.
As you said, you still love your friend, so I think you should take her out somewhere and be like,"What do we need to do to make our friendship work?" She'll tell you. If everything doesn't work out like that, than you are gonna have to drop the relationship. =( Jealousy will kill you emotionally and physically if you don't stop it.
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Something's up and going on.
Why not invite her to go somewhere (just the two of you), even if it's just coming to your house for some snack foods and sit back and talk.
Sounds like you guys have stopped doing things that you used to do together and that she is becoming distant towards you as if you have no time for her, or maybe she feels like you are throwing up activities in her face as mockery because she can't do it or didn't get invited to attend with you. (a small case of jealousy). I hope not being that you two are close like sisters. Part of being close as sisters is communication and having those deep heart to heart conversations regardless of feelings getting in the way, some things just have to be said, point blank in order to get past it and over it to move forward.
Try not to play the blame game, pointing fingers in order to cast fault, just tell her how you feel, how you used to feel, and why you feel the way you feel now. You are questioning if this friendship is of value? if you are getting and giving something out of the friendship then it is of value, GOOD friends are hard to find and come by. If she has been there for you and you have been there for her, work on it. If you are the one always giving, taking mess, dealing with petty things, and accepting things from her that you would rather not deal with or even listen to, then you may want to look at cutting it off.
Life is too short to deal with fakeness but if you and your friend(s) are true,and real to each other then salvage your friendship. After you guys talk and no communication for the better has been established then it may be best to cut the friendship becasue it's been cut too deep. If you all end up on the same page, and can laugh about the misunderstandings as you develop some understanding, then renew your friendship and be happy!
Good Luck, miss lil' lady and feel free to ask me anything you want at any time.
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I hate to say this, but I think your friend is drifting away from you. And probably by her own choice.
One idea you can try is ask just what is going on. Seriously, ask what is causing this wedge between you. Don't be pushy about it. Just ask.
And I hate to add this, but be ready for things not working out as happily. But if it doesn't, then maybe she wasn't as good a friend as you are to her.
Good luck.
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