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14/f really confused about a guy
My best friend, John, is going out with my other best friend, Michelle. He likes another girl, Stephanie, and he is having trouble choosing between the two. He wants me to give him advice and I don't know what to say because I think I might be in love with him. Like seriously. He already knows I like him, and Michelle also knows. He's told me he likes me back. He even said that if it wasn't for Michelle and Steph, he'd go out with me. I know Michelle loves him so much... I feel really bad, but I can't help it. I can't push my feelings away. I talk to him on the phone all the time and we flirt a lot more than we should. So, what should I tell him, and what should I do about my own feelings? Please and thanks.
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Well first you cant help how you feel, you cant control your emotions. Your in a pretty sucky spot. You probly dont want to ruin your realtionship with your friends but its the guy you love so its hard to pick. But mabey think abou this if your friend was truely your friend would she be doing this to you? But then again mabey she liked him first. i dont know. Then about this guy if he truely liked you why would he be goin for the other girls. It seems like he just cant make up his mind. And you probly make up excuses about the things he's doin because you love him. The best advice you can give him would be to take it slow and to think honestly which girl would be best for him. Because the fact is he's goin to hurt two girls and possily mess up a good friendship. Its hard loving a guy who is your best friend because you dont want to risk that relationship but then you know that chance you might be able to be together would make you the happiest girl in the world.
My advice to you would be to tell him again how you feel about him. And let him know how your feeling about all this going on. For me looking on this i dont think its right for him to ask you for help on this exoetially if he know how you feel.
well i hope i helped you and i hope everything can work out for you.
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Lessons of life, dear heart: Do not like your girl's man! check this out: if he is already going out with Michelle, he should have no interest, likes or crushes for Stephanie or anyone else. Let's say he starts going out with you, and likes Stephanie and most likely talks to Michelle behind your back.. are you cool with that? If not then guess what? that's what is going on now, with the exception that he isn't dating you. What should you tell him? Tell him that he is on his way to growing up into a man who hurts women by playing silly games already because he is. Why are you all even talking about going out anyway at 14? It's cool to have friends, and it's cool to hang out but you are still young, enjoy life! In reference to his situation: DO NOT INCLUDE yourself. He is already claiming to be interested in your best friend(s), what do you mean he likes you, girl he likes EVERYBODY! Advise him to make a decision between the two of them because he can not date both OR continue talking BS to you. Seriously: If you were really a true friend, you wouldn't entertain the conversations that you are having with him. I am willing to bet that you don't to him in front of your friend(s), the way you talk to him behind their backs... if this is the case, this makes you two faced, so change it now so that as you grow older, you will value friendship more, and relationships more, which means you won't accept less than you deserve.. jump it off now so you will be prepared later. I wish that all of you would stop talking to him for real to let him know that he doesn't have it like that. Who is he to decide on which one of you he should be talking to, since he's being given the decision he's going to talk to all 3 of you like he's been doing?! If it's all about friendship only then cool, but if it's about dating - please.. all 3 of you girls are contributing and saying it's cool to be played by a Jr. playa in the making..
Have fun, don't get serious or take anything serious right now..he doesn't know which one he wants to date or talk to because he prefers all 3.. just keeping it real with you so you know what's up...
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