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extremely pathetic but also extremely annoying! There is 9 on us in our group at school, and lately i feel as though know one could really care less wether i was there or not half the time i am just tagging along trying to include myself in the conversation. No one shares there 'gossip' with me or makes conversation with me. I feel like a total outcast it can be embarassing aswell when people are looking at me its like haha she hasnt got anyone to talk to what a loser, our 'group' is quit popular aswell which is annoying. My so caleld best friend dosnt even talk ro me very much anymore is like they all moved on or something they are never themselfs and are always so obsessive other boys and really in love with themself. Shes always mixing with everyone aswell everyone else has a close friend but she is so close to everyone which makes me jelous i wish i could be close to everyone and they would tell me anything but know it always has to be her the centre o attention 24/7!!!!!!!!!
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Last year, I went through the same exact thing.
And the easiest solution, find better friends.
I used to hang out with the "cool" group, and at first it was all fine and great. Then I was the 'different' one of the group, following them, was never included in the conversations, etc.
So eventually, I stopped hanging out with them.
I found myself some real friends. The people I hang out with now never once judged me, always included me, and are some of the nicest people. All I had to do was look for some good friends. If they're not the coolest girls in school, so be it. I know my friends aren't, and I'm not either. I'm fine with that.
Unlike those cool girls, I know for a fact I have true friends.
Nobody deserves a fake friend. No matter how popular these people are, they don't deserve you as a friend if they treat you like that. If they don't care if you're there or not, just leave. You don't deserve to be treated like that, so don't let it happen.
My advice is just go and find better friends. I gurantee, once you do, you will be much happier.
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Yep.. I know exactly what you are saying.. I went through it too, and you know what I did? I said the hell with it!
You are who you are, love who you are and don't suck or tag behind anyone. If they don't wish to include you or talk to you so be it. What are you getting out this so called friendship besides hurt and embarassment? Is it worth it? Find a new group of friends, it's very easy. Are you shy? If you are, it's time to come out of that shell girlfriend. Do you have anymore friends at the time? Even just one friend not associated with this clique? These groups will go on for the rest of your life, in college, at work, even as an adult, so pride yourself NOW and be determined to have your own group that you have originated and stop looking for acceptance in this group that clearly has no interest in your being with them.
You aren't jealous, you are hurt. You are hurt because you feel left out and outcast. I did too until I let them go - I am a firm believer that if you like me for me, I will like you for you. If I have to beg for your attention or conversation, then I am not going to deal with you because you are only setting yourself up to be used or the one they talk to because they have no one else to talk to dear heart. You are not secondary material! Seriously.
What type of social groups do you belong? If none,then look into joining some. I noticed you said that you have a best friend. I learned this the hard way - just because you are someone's best friend, doesn't mean that they are yours. I thought this one girl was my best friend, but I noticed that I was running up behind her, basically begging for attention. I noticed that I was not in the popular group but thought I was because she was. I was always the one who was driving them around for free. I was the one always telling my business to have it repeated, no one shared anything with me. I was always the one letting people borrow money - then it dawned on me that I was her bestfriend and was there for her at all times, but I accepted that She wasn't my best friend because she hardly talked to me, told me anything OR respected me. I noticed that I always was left feeling stupid and like a loser. I joined a church group, an academic team and other teams. I even did some volunteering for my church. upon doing this, I found happiness in myself and new friends!
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